Friend loves to talk about people

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Basically, my friend loves to comment on everyone’s life and business.
I have had to back away a little from her, as tbh I just don’t care that much about peoples lives and the decisions that they make for their family or themselves!

Ok, so by me writing this I guess it doesn’t make me much better than her!! 😂

We have been friends for over 8 years and consider her a close friend.

She loves to ask about purchases and money specifically. How I afford my car, why I spend money kids clothes (mostly Zara with a mix of supermarkets - not fancy at all!), holidays, new kitchen… tbh anything I do or buy. Why people spend money can certain shoes (Nike trainer for kids), She has most recently been digging about our other friends income.

I obviously don’t know her true financial status, but on the outside she seems to be doing ok herself. Both her and OH are in good stable jobs, they have, or what seems to be a fairly normal life - on the outside not much different to mine! Again I don’t obviously know.

I brush things off when asked but it’s getting to the point where I want to make a sort of statement to get her to stop. Nothing rude but for her to understand this is not something I want to be discussing. I do not want to be he sounding ear to be discussing other people and their business!

If she's talking about other people to you, she'll be sharing about you and gossiping to other people about you.

You're going to have to spell it out to her that you don't want to hear gossip about other people. Stop letting her fish information about you as well

Yep was Gona say she's definitely gossiping about you too

I have a friend like this. She’s a lovely person but has a total blind side when it comes to talking about other people. I am under no illusion that she doesn’t talk about me in the same vein. Not that I’m very interesting. She too comes out with the passive aggressive comments about what I’m wearing, how much it cost etc. I’ve learnt to ignore it. I know she has a rather controlling materialistic husband and it’s probably a learned behaviour.

@MsAdoraBelleDearheartVonLipwig I too am really not that interesting!! So good luck to her talking about me to other people!! 😂

You hit the nail on the head with the passively aggressive comments, I’ve never thought about it like that before

I have a friend like this as well. She doesn't do it to be mean, but she is genuinely interested in people, and what make them tick. My friend is not as concerned about costs of things, but more about relationships. I tend to let her ramble, then change the subject when it gets too close.

Can you just change the topic of conversation every time? And state something about you finding money conversations a bit boring.