To ask about your worst exes?

[AwfulExBoyfriend]

NC so as not to be linked to other posts and because this is outing!

I was driving home earlier and there was a Lexus in front of me that made me randomly think about one of my kind-of-ex-DPs.

I was 19, we worked together (him in a more senior role that I was hoping to work up to) and we'd go out on the occasional business trip together. I didn't realise at the time, but he seemed to be having some kind of "approaching 30 crisis" and spent loads of time talking about his DP and how he wasn't sure she was "the one". They eventually split up and we had a bit of a thing, which is bad enough given the work situation, but prior to them splitting up he'd say some really awful things about her, like "I'm just not sure she's the one. I mean, do I really want to settle for a 7/10?" What was I thinking?! 😱

We had a few dates, talked about going on a short break together (but never did) but we were never "officially together". After a while I realised I was just filler to him, someone to pass the time while he looked for the actual "one" 🙄 I called it quits and met someone else, who is now my DH of nearly 11 years and we have a DD.

I remember he phoned me one night while I was in the car with DH and was very put out when I declined to meet up with him that week and told him I wouldn't be meeting him again. Later, I found out he'd been shagging at least two other women in the office and had told each of us similar-but- slightly- different versions of events!🤦‍♀️ he had quite a serious impact on one of the women's lives in relation to work and her home life - I won't say what as it isn't my place to. All in all, he was a bit of a scum bag!

Anyhoo, AIBU to ask for your stories of your rat bag exes? I know there will be many awful stories and I don't intend to trivialise them with this thread, I guess I'm just interested to know what shit people have put up with in the past that they no longer would.

Oh and Alex, if you ever happen to see this, I hope you've grown up and treat your DW better than you treated all of us 15 odd years ago!

Many years ago as a naive 20 year old. Former colleague a few years older, had been good-looking but was thinning on top and thickening round the middle. He thought he was gods gift to women and had previously informed me that "I didn't stand a chance with him"
Had a VERY short fling with him and after a very uninspiring "fumble" he looked me up and down and announced " well you're no Linda Lusardi are you!!"
To say I was flabbergasted was a huge understatement!!

My ex, the dad of my oldest, was abusive. He would lock me in/lock me out of the apartment whenever he was angry with me, wake me up in the night to argue with me to stop me from sleeping (even when we had a newborn and I was utterly exhausted), hold me down and put his hand over my mouth to stop me screaming for help when he was threatening me. He was also quite ill with paranoid delusions, one night he made me stay awake all night reading the bible outloud to our newborn to 'protect her' from our neighbours who he was convinced were demonic and threatening her supernaturally.
Even after I escaped he continued to ruin my life with custody fights, refusing to return DD after visits, accusing me of child abuse which resulted in an investigation in hospital over several days, lying to the courts and getting temporary custody that way (overturned once the judge got the evidence but that took two weeks), medically neglecting DD which caused issues for her. Was all quite horrible except sometimes, when he was taking his medication and a glimmer of who he used to be when I first met him would shine through, until I got sole custody finally.
Then he died and I was surprised by how upset I was, despite all he put me through.

He (very drunkenly) came home from a night out and incoherently gave me a ring claiming it was heirloom but god himself only knows where he really got it from.

I wore it for a bit but never really told anyone because even in my delusional state I was pretty embarrassed.

I don't mean to laugh, but LOL! Linda Lusardi of all people!!!
What a twat!

The man who when we got together 'forgot' to tell me another woman was 5 months pregnant with his child. I went on a romantic holiday abroad with him while he had a 10 day old baby I knew nothing about !

He then told me his mum was seriously brain damaged in a car crash and his step dad killed. He sobbed while I held his hand and offered to pay the rental deposit for the house he was going to lose as his mum couldn't transfer the money.

I then found out there had been no car crash, it was all lies. Luckily I hadn't given him any money. Found out about the baby then too. Found out about a teenage child he had that he'd also lied about.

He then went back to the woman who had had the baby while making lots of really unpleasant comments to me about how she's so desperate and gullible he can do what he wants. He clearly has been - I saw him on Plenty of Fish a lot over the next couple of years. 2 years ago I saw a man I am almost certain was him in a coffee shop with a different woman and a newborn baby. He looked like he was going to crap his pants when he saw me. I believe he's still living with the woman who had the baby while I was with him.....

The best thing ? When we were together he kept going on about how much he hates lying and we always needed to be honest with each other ....

My worst ex was someone who supported me through chemo and then 6 months after I finished cheated on me with a woman at work. When he told me he proceeded to say the reason was that she could give him kids and I couldn’t. Never forgotten it and I’d never forgive him. He knew that response would kill me and 4 years on it still does.

He was a selfish freeloader and expected me to pay for everything. Thank god he was the type to get bored of GFs after 6 months and move on.

All my exes were and are perfectly nice.
Sorry😎

i married somebody 11 years younger than me. He lied and told me he was 4 years younger. it only came out on his birthday, the first after we'd married. I thought it was his 37th it was his 30th!

I’ve been out with few scumbags in my time, but some of you were so unlucky with those shitty twats, I hope you’re all happy, free (of them) and married, with someone who appreciates you or happily single as a Pringle!!! 🌹