Handing in my notice this afternoon - need advice please!

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I plan to hand in my notice this afternoon. However, I'm starting to get cold feet as I'm really nervous!

I have a standard 1:1 with my manager this afternoon, so thought I'd start it by saying I'm handing in my notice, and say I'll follow this with it in writing. Does this sound like a good time to hand in my notice? I'm also nervous as I had a performance review on Friday and feel like I wasted my manager's time on it as we don't have these during notice periods, so if I had given my notice in a few days ago I wouldn't have had a review. I also had to be quite future-thinking in the meeting and say things that were a bit of a lie e.g. about what I was working on for the year etc.

I have a long notice period so want to do it in the best possible way. The only other time I've resigned from a job before my manager was quite snappy with me and made me feel really guilty, so I want to do it in the best most respectful way.

I'd write out your resignation and take it to your meeting.

Then you can spend the meeting talking practically about leaving dates and handover etc.

Is the meeting face to face or online? If online I think your proposal is fine - I’ve handed my notice in twice since wfh and both times have called my manager to let them know then follow up with a letter attached to an email. Good luck!

Tell them verbally at the start of the meeting and follow up with the written confirmation.

You didn't waste your manager's time with the review, these things happen, there's never a good time to quit. Just be professional, thank them for their support, and tell them you're moving on but appreciate their management during the last x years and so on. It happens every day.

You can explain that you weren't in a position on Friday to hand your notice in yet so you wanted to proceed with the review, so apologies for this! Keep it light hearted, I would be able to make a joke of it if one of my team did that to me.

Managers understand that business has to proceed as usual until the notice is officially handed in, and will continue to until you leave the business (granted with the exception of such things like performance reviews, development plans etc)

Don't worry that you had a meeting on Friday. You would never have said let's not have this meeting as I'm weighing up whether to leave so let's hold off....so don't worry about it.

YANBU at all, you're acting like you're committing a crime! You're doing everything properly, telling your manager in person, giving the required notice. You really don't need to do anymore and 'the best, most respectful way' seems to be something only women worry about.

I'm reading between the lines that you're in a target-driven environment and are resigning having talked about projects/future sales that don't really exist? They will want to go through them with you as part of your handover, so you need to handle this well; just resign verbally and follow up in writing, and write out your handover notes so you can avoid an exit meeting.

If you are resigning because you have another job do you have the offer of the new job in writing? If the offer is “subject to references” can you wait until the references are back and confirmed to be acceptable?

If all that is in place or you are taking time out of employed work then your plan sounds fine. You will be polite and professional. How they respond is up to them. I expect you will need to put it in writing for it to be formal notice.