To not take teen along for her brothers birthday

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I have a huge age gap. One is a teenager and one is a toddler. My toddler has a birthday soon and we have planned a day out at a place aimed at toddlers. I was discussing booking the tickets and my teen turned her nose up and said she would rather not go along. she said she would rather stay home while we go and come for food after.

There is nothing for her to do there but i also dont want her to be left out of family celebrations. One friend of mine said i should leave her at home no point paying an arm and a leg for something she will get nothing from, then my other friend is shocked i would even consider it. What would you do

Your teen is right, Friend 1 is right and you are overthinking it.

Couldn’t vote as I wasn’t sure which option meant what.

Given it's her idea that she joins you later, I would respect that rather than force her to sit bored somewhere that isn't for her.

Let her stay at home. Misses the point sims is still going!!

If she wants to join you later for food, she is not being left out or refusing to celebrate her sibling's birthday. Your friend 2 sounds a bit odd, probably best not to take their opinion into account over your daughter's.

Give her some money so she can go to the cinema or something with a friend whilst you're at the activity if you feel that guilty......but tbh your main issue is the fact your basing your feelings around the opinion of a 'friend' and not the opinion and sensible suggestion your dd has made.