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To have done better than my (useless) parents ?

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Reeca · 13/03/2023 10:10

I'm currently pregnant with my second baby and my 5 year old is thrilled to be having a baby/brother or sister but last night asked the question 'how did the baby get into your tummy?' My own parents didn't explain the facts of life to me at all - their policy was hoping to God I'd pick it up somewhere else ! I was an only child so the subject didn't come up directly. So me and my partner had a talk with our DD about the facts of life last night and I think we emerged unscathed! At no point did we mention a stork !! 🤣

AIBU to think I did better than my own parents in at least explaining this matter of factly - my own parents I feel were too emotionally immature to handle emotive/difficult subjects. Or should I perhaps have indeed put more emphasis on the stork's role in all this ? Grin

Either way - this convo has been had

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RudsyFarmer · 13/03/2023 11:12

pontipinemum · 13/03/2023 11:09

@RudsyFarmer guessing you are a farmer? We're cattle farmers I'm guessing DS will get a good insight into how things work early on. His (also farmer) cousin gave a demo using toy animals at school as to how the calf gets into the cow aged 6 😂

The seed/ egg seems like a very good way to explain it. I was told nothing, not even what to expect with periods so I will also be taking a very different approach.

Funnily enough I’m not a farmer but I did grow up on farms for two decades 🤭

Molto · 13/03/2023 11:17

Does anyone know why we tend to avoid the word “womb” so much? It’s not complicated or sexual, but Brits seem so squeamish about it.

Tummy/stomach is where food goes, so if we’re avoiding confusion why wouldn’t we use the word womb (“where the baby grows”) in these explanations?

mumonthehill · 13/03/2023 11:19

You are doing a great job and honest and open conversations around sex will have you on a sound footing when they get to be teenagers. My dm did not do this and i have found it difficult but it is so important that they can come to you when they need to and talk to you about it all.

Bollindger · 13/03/2023 11:35

It is an age thing.
I remember 30 years ago being 6 months pregnant and asking my mum where babies come from. She blushed and replied , "I think You know that one.!"
You never asked your parents about the subject, so that is why they didn't tell you.
Also schools even 30 years ago did explain about pregnancy and your parents had to sign back then to let you be taught that subject.

Mumsgirls · 13/03/2023 11:43

I am 66 still waiting for my parents! Nuns at high school did reproduction in rabbits in biology and told us not to do things with boys. At the time I played with boys and did not get why it was wrong lol

Luckily friend had older siblings, so got a third hand version. My two year old ddc knows she was in mummy’s tummy. Like you I did the opposite of my parents in this matter

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