NC for this.
Best friend (let’s call her Jane) and I met at college 12 years ago. We were each others MOH’s, have been on family holidays together etc. Throughout the friendship I’ve always kind of had the feeling that I contribute more to the friendship than she does but I just put this down to us being different types of people and tried not to let it bother me.
Jane has been going through a rough patch with her DH for a year. He moved out (his choice) while he decided what he wanted. I have been incredibly supportive of Jane, always available via message and phone call, meet up with her regularly to discuss the issues.
I live 30 mins away from her and it always seems to be me driving out my way to where she lives to meet her. I work full time and Jane works part time, however she looks after her twin DC’s on her non working days. I feel like there’s hardly any flexibility with where and when we meet up, she pressures me to take days off on her NWD and either I travel to meet her or we don’t meet at all.
I’m starting to feel a little bit used, like she’s treating me as some sort of therapist. I am more than happy to be supportive and give her advice, however she shows zero interest in my life. An example is we were messaging each other yesterday and I struck up a conversation regarding an important milestone in my DS’s life. She completely skimmed over it and started discussing arranging a night out because she’s fed up of DH.
I absolutely hate conflict so don’t really know what to do. I suppose I just needed to get this off my chest!