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AIBU?

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To think I may have given my my guest food poisening?

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stilldazed · 12/03/2023 14:14

Last night some friends came over for dinner. I made a chicken curry and rice with home made nan. Followed by a fruit of the forest cheese cake (also homemade). I have made this many times. We have the curry about once a week never had any problems.

Today me and DH and 2 DCs have had really bad diahorea..i am in bed as I write this.

We also had fresh lemon and ricotta ravioli for lunch (from an indipendent shop made on premises).

Was it the pasta or my food?

Should i reach out to my friend..i'm so embarassed if I poisened them..

My friend sent meca message this morning about something unrelated..and then another message raving about the food and asking for the recipe for the curry and cheese cake..does this mean they are ok??

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notgettinganyyounger · 12/03/2023 14:16

I would text back and just ask if they are OK. Say you have d and v, and hoping that she is unaffected. You don't have to mention the food. It could just be a bug from anywhere. Hope you feel better soon!

picklemewalnuts · 12/03/2023 14:16

If you all got a virus from the same place, you'd be like this too. It needn't be something you've all eaten! If your friends get ill a day or two later, then they've caught the bug too.

mynameiscalypso · 12/03/2023 14:17

I'd assume it was a bug rather than food poisoning to be honest, there's so much around at the moment.

MolkosTeenageAngst · 12/03/2023 14:18

How would we possibly know!?

Food poisoning can take from a few hours to up to a week to show its effects depending on the bacteria that has caused it. Nobody here can tell you what it was you’ve eaten that caused it or if it is food poisoning or another big such as norovirus. Nobody here can tell you whether your friend is fine, whether she is currently sick or whether she is going to get sick later.

It absolutely could have been your meal last night. It also could have been the pasta or something you ate several days ago. It also could be a bug, norovirus or another d&v bug.

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stilldazed · 12/03/2023 20:05

So I messaged my friend and 3 of the have had the shits. Same as us. She said she thinks in was a virus not the food but I think she's just being nice :(

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ObamaLlamas · 12/03/2023 20:13

So was any of the food frozen then thawed and cooked? Or all bought and made fresh. I'm thinking the chicken and the soft cheese used in the cheesecake.

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stilldazed · 12/03/2023 20:24

All fresh...i'm mortified:(

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surreygirl1987 · 12/03/2023 20:43

Look, this happens. I'd be mortified too, but you just don't ever know how food was handled in the supermarket. The chicken may have been left put on the shop floor for hours on a trolley before being put in the fridge shelves. I used to work in a supermarket as a student and honesty it was horrendous what you see happening- you just assume it's been kept properly in a fridge or freezer but that isn't always the case. There's nothing you can do about it and your friends aren't giving you a hard time, so just try to move on. Sorry this happened.

WoofWoofBeachLife · 12/03/2023 21:18

It's probably coincidence you all have it, it won't be the food. Someone has carried the bug and its hit you all as you've been in close contact. Could be from a supermarket trolley handle, anywhere at all. Don't beat yourself up. Xx

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stilldazed · 13/03/2023 08:00

thank you everyone for your messages, they have helped..I'm meeting my friend for an activity that we do together later today. I'm still absolutely mortified, but this too shall pass, right?!!

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stilldazed · 13/03/2023 08:03

Thing is I really have to force myself to invite people round as I'm fairly anxious about cooking for people, I worry that this has set me back years!

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Seeline · 13/03/2023 08:03

Well none of you should be going to activities within 48 hours of having the shits.
No wonder D&V bugs seem to be everywhere at the moment.

Xrays · 13/03/2023 08:05

Stay home if you have this. Don’t spread it about. It may not be the food at all.

YomAsalYomBasal · 13/03/2023 08:05

Don't go out having had the shits. Maybe next time cook a vegetarian dish?

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 13/03/2023 08:07

I'd think it was the food, bugs tend to spread from person to person and I'd be surprised if a number of people came down with a bug at exactly the same time. Sorry.

But bugs picked up from food are still bacteria that can then spread from person to person, so you should still avoid mixing for 48 hours so you don't pass it on

HoofWankingSpangleCunt · 13/03/2023 08:09

Don’t be going out OP. That’s daft and very bad form.

creekingmillenial · 13/03/2023 08:13

Seems really unlikely to me that it’s the food you’ve cooked many times before. Far more likely a d&v bug,which based on our local hospital is very much doing the rounds.

Eattheeel · 13/03/2023 08:13

I wonder if your friend messaged asking for the recipes to try and figure out which element caused the food poisoning!

Wrongsideofpennines · 13/03/2023 08:17

Please please don't go out only a few hours after having diarrhoea. This is how bugs spread so much. Please tell me you haven't sent your kids to school too. The 48hr rule applies to everyone.

Mamai90 · 13/03/2023 08:22

I'd be thinking a bug rather than the food. My daughter was ill with a bug at the weekend and my sister and my nephews have a bug too and we haven't seen eachother so it's a different infection.

My friend works in a school and said stomach bugs are rife at the moment.

Zarqon · 13/03/2023 10:03

Seeline · 13/03/2023 08:03

Well none of you should be going to activities within 48 hours of having the shits.
No wonder D&V bugs seem to be everywhere at the moment.

This.

If you think there is any chance it’s a virus, how can you go to an activity and pass it on to the whole group?!

Fwiw as you’ve done the furry and cake often before, I reckon it was the ricotta fresh pasta, is very easy to get food poisoning from feesh egg pasta. Probably a storage issue in the shop. There are two cafes near me where I have learned not to buy anything dairy!!

coconutpie · 13/03/2023 12:03

stilldazed · 13/03/2023 08:00

thank you everyone for your messages, they have helped..I'm meeting my friend for an activity that we do together later today. I'm still absolutely mortified, but this too shall pass, right?!!

I really hope you are not going to an activity today. You should not be going anywhere until 48hrs after D&V.

KarmaStar · 13/03/2023 12:37

Whatever the cause,and how you expect complete strangers to know is odd....You really should not go out and spread d&v to other people.

Violaviolin · 13/03/2023 12:59

creekingmillenial · 13/03/2023 08:13

Seems really unlikely to me that it’s the food you’ve cooked many times before. Far more likely a d&v bug,which based on our local hospital is very much doing the rounds.

If course you can get food poisoning from food you're used to cooking. 😅.

elevenplusdilemma · 13/03/2023 13:46

I think it's more likely the food. You won't have passed on a virus to your friends before you were ill and even if you did, it probably wouldn't affect them that quickly.
My guess is that either the ricotta or the soft cheese for the cheesecake wasn't stored correctly (in the shop I mean, not blaming you!). It's less likely to be the chicken unless it wasn't cooked through (unlikely in a curry) or you were careless about washing hands or utensils after preparing the raw chicken and then contaminated the cooked food.

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