Would this behaviour from 7yr old concern you?

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Dd is 7, doing great at school, very popular, generally a lovely bright settled girl.

However she has this strange habit of struggling to just..be..it's hard to explain but for instance she's always fidgeting, loves a cuddle but find it hard to cuddle without wanting to be tickled or poking my face or being generally quite loud and wriggly. After dinner she wants to leave the table IMMEDIATELY and starts wanting attention, making meow noises in our faces or something equally annoying, finds it hard to just sit and have a chat. Also has always found it really hard to entertain herself.

She has a little brother who just always seems so much more zen!

She can sit and concentrate on a film etc so it's not really an attention span thing?!

Anyway maybe it's just a phase but just wondered if anyone had experienced the same.

She has a lot of energy and a younger sibling. I'd suggest more active 1:1 time with each parent. See if that helps?

Being able to watch a film doesnt mean its not an ADHD thing, i cant sit still without a focus for long. But i can binge watch a series for 12 hours in a single day if im having a bad day. Girls, statistically, are much better at masking and mimicking too.

Im not saying she has ADHD, but i wouldnt dismiss it because she can watch a film.

I wouldn’t worry, all kids are different & unless school have observed same thing & raised it as a concern with you then it’s just a kid being a kid. My old neighbour & I had kids around the same age and around 7/8 years old I found her ds really hyper & sometimes very irritating which contrasted with my ds who sometimes seemed too quiet & withdrawn, they both grew out of their childhood behaviours/phases

Hmm that's true we probably don't do enough 1:1 things with them.

Thanks that's reassuring, yes hyper is a good word to describe it actually!

Sounds totally normal. Dc are meant to be loud, energetic and annoying. They are not built to sit still and chat. That’s why we are blessed to have screens these days.
of course some dc are more zen like your son but that’s an exception.
my first dc was zen all her younger years, hit 8 and is a pain in the bum. Second dc was born to move, full of life and energy from day one but is now at 5 learning to chill. They are all different

I know how you feel, sometimes it feels like it’s excessive behaviour because it feels relentless especially at the weekends when they’re not at school & some kids get bored so quickly, my 11 yo dd still does

Thanks @LuAb76 yes thinking about it, probably not a coincidence that I'm posting this on a dreary Sunday in what seems like the longest winter ever 😂

I am your daughter. Actually I am writing this while fidgeting and body rocking, listening to music. I am loud, can't sit still, get bored easily. Some people find me too much. I suspect I am somewhere on the autism spectrum, but never been diagnosed officially (don't see the point for myself, my sister's daughter has been diagnosed and my sister is saying she recognises a lot of the things her daughter does as things I did growing up). I'm a fully functioning adult, well educated, with a good job, well respected by colleagues/clients, have a partner that loves me and have friends and people who (seem to) genuinely like me and want to spend time with me. I grew up thinking I'm different (and I probably am) and worrying about it (as an older child, teenager and in my early twenties), but turns out, being me is what makes me unique and why people enjoy my company and appreciate me! If you daughter is doing well otherwise, no need to worry and definitely no need to try and stop her being her, the world is cruel enough, let her home and family be her safe space where she can be 100% herself!

What's she like at school?