Slobbing Around

[Rhubarb233]

I’ve been with my DP on and off for ages. I’ve just moved house - he doesn’t live with me. He comes round a lot and just slobs about on the sofa. I try to keep on top of tidying and being clean because this place is a haven to me after not having a place that truly felt like home. He doesn’t seem to care at all, he just lies on the sofa eating crisps and biscuits, crumbs everywhere, blows his nose and throws the tissues on the floor, comes in and takes off his dirty smelly socks and throws them on the floor.
I feel repulsed when I look at him and I just want him to leave. I sound ridiculous and like I’m completely overreacting but it grinds my gears.
I’m very hormonal and sometimes I can go a week or two feeling angry at everyone and everything - it could just be one of these weeks but it’s just awful. It makes me want to just end it and be by myself.
Am I just being a bi*ch?

Hah this!

He sounds really disgusting. Why on earth would you want him in your house?

I can only deduce he must be a wow in the sack (after a shower)

You don't sound ridiculous at all he sounds disgusting. Don't settle for him get rid and move I

What’s his own house like? I dread to think. Who picks up his snotty tissues and smelly socks there?

I think that’s gross and I wouldn’t let anyone chuck tissues on my floor, even a small child who didn’t know any different.

I sound ridiculous and like I’m completely overreacting

No, you're underreacting. What's ridiculous is putting up with someone THROWING USED TISSUES ON YOUR FLOOR. My 5yo son doesn't do that! What an absolute disrespectful pig....is he really that good in bed you think it's worth him treating your house like a slum?

Why do you think you are overreacting?

He sounds disgusting. Bin him.

It is no crime to be single. Better that than be with a slob.

Good god, what a rude pig. Give him a bin liner or bin as he comes in - “for your rubbish”. When he’s leaving, tell him to empty his bin. Why have you let this situation happen? Actually, why are you with him?

I hope this is a pisstake

Never ever live with this man - this is his best behaviour

I feel repulsed when I look at him and I just want him to leave.

I don't think you're being unreasonable, but if this is how you feel then why are you in this relationship?

I’m a bit of the messy side and couldn’t live with someone who was ultra tidy, I’d find it suffocating. I think (short of major health hazard!) the important thing is that couples aren’t too far away from each other in what feels a right balance. Doesn’t sound like long term you are going to get along.