AIBU to think this is inappropriate?

[foodiemum80]

Hi, hoping I can get some impartial advice as I feel like I'm losing my rational mind.

Husband left in Nov citing he wasn't happy. I started hearing rumours of affair but he denied everything. Last week my 10 year old found evidence of relationship with OW at his house from Aug last year. She spilled her guts about it and it turns out that the OW turns up when their dad is taking them out. I'm not sure if this has been from before he left.

Should I be annoyed that he has introduced the kids to OW? I feel its inappropriate but as I say my judgement may be clouded by emotions. My 10yo is really upset about it all.

Well it's not great but unfortunately this is one of the worst bits about coparenting. You can't stop the other parent doing what they want on their time

Thanks @desperadodogface I suppose that's what I probably came here to hear. Its hard when you're surrounded by people who think his behaviour is bad

There's no SHOULD about how you feel.

but unfortunately you can't stop him introducing whoever he likes, when he likes (unless you genuinely feel there's a safety risk).

it was extremely careless of him to leave proof of an affair lying around (if he did. DD should not be 'snooping' if she was).

you need to explain to DD that her Dad can date/have a relationship with whoever he wants now & it's ok to like them, that it doesn't mean anything changes with you & her, but she doesn't have to keep secrets either. She can tell you anything, that's not something other people, even her Dad should be putting on her!!

pkus that it's ok to talk to Dad about how she feels & what she wants, but that at the end of the day, Dad gets to make the decision who is at his house, meets them on days out etc but that in time she will be able to choose whether to go to his house or not.

Your dc will form their own opinion on both of them. Ex has to live with that.

Thanks for your replies. I think I'm just feeling so rubbish because I was feeling better and now all this has come out I feel a bit back to square one. Feeling all the emotions.