Ex doesn't watch them properly, gets distracted, doesn't ever seem to have that awareness or danger that most parents instinctively have.
he said he was taking them to a lake to play with a remote control boat which fine that sounds fun and I just said make sure you keep a close eye on them because they have a habit of running off.
The last time he took them there he let them paddle in it, it's a lake where swimming is banned because it's unsafe and the shallow bits have shelves etc they could have easily gone out of depth and should never have been in there anyway!
he said:
- he doesn't need to constantly watch them near open water they're old enough to know not to jump in (9 year old work adhd and autism and a 5 year old)
-it doesn't matter because if they did fall in it's fine because he can swim (the dc can't yet tho??)
-they cant drown in 5 minutes he doesn't need to constantly know where they are.
Now I just feel sick about it. I'm not insane and I'd be happy for most other people I know to take them somewhere like this, but I have seen him not pay any attention to basic safety so many times and he is the kind of parent who would sit on their phone and let them run off/not know exactly where they are, it's a huge deep lake surrounded by woods so very easy for them to get lost out of sight in a few minutes. The youngest in particular just runs off all the time (I suspect he has adhd like his brother tbh)
i cant do anything about it but I don't know how to stop feeling so sick about it