To ask about having 5 kids?

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My partner is the youngest of 5 kids. I've noticed the one he seems to get on best with is a brother 10 years older. He's got a brother even older again so very big age gap 'tween my partner and his eldest brother. Brother closest to him is ; years older but they don't really socialise much - interests and inclinations are completely different.

AIBU to think of you have 5 it's best to have a big age gap or better close together ?

Sorry meant to say brother closest to him is 4 years older

I'm the youngest in a large family, get on best with the oldest sibling.

Am guessing it depends on the personalities.
My mum was one of 5. She got on best with her next oldest brother. The youngest sibling got on best with with the oldest. The 4th sibling was more isolated from his siblings, I think.

I have 6. With mega sized families you inevitably have a big age gap between oldest and youngest, unless you have quintuplets or something. I'm not sure I understand your question.

Sometimes families are quite close together - say a 7 year age gap in a 5 child family between youngest and eldest. In my partner's family - his eldest brother's more like 15 years older than him. I'd have thought siblings born close together might be closer - but understand that's not necessarily the case

I'm.one of 5. All close together in she. We all get on quite well. I would not choose to hsve 5. If u got an ordinary job,there is never enough money to go round.

Age not she. Oops

I don't think a 15 year gap between oldest and youngest is particularly big for 5 dc. It's still a new baby every 3.5 years or so.

I’m one of 6 with a 13 year spread.
As children, and even moreso as adults our relationship closeness is based on personality. Hardly surprising, really.
13 years is nothing at 45 and 58.

My mum was the middle daughter of five kids born over twenty years. She was very close to her older siblings and much less so to the youngest. The gap between her and the oldest was ten years and between her and the youngest was also ten. She had way more in common as adults with my oldest uncle, though she saw him very little as a child (he was working by the time she started school). She hadn’t much in common with her sister, despite them being the closest in age, but a lot of rivalry. My niece and nephew are eleven months apart and have very little in common in terms of personality, and fight a lot. My oldest brother and I are six years apart and are now more like twins at times. Wasn’t always that way, growing up he felt distant, almost like a third parent. Maybe a sibling relationship isn’t always defined by what happens in childhood, and eventual closeness is probably down to personality rather than birth order or gaps.

My mum (mid 60s) is the oldest of 6 with an 11 year spread. They mostly superficially get on, but actually are in two factions split along political fault lines: their mum's favourites (liberal, my mum plus uncle2 and aunt2) vs their dad's favourites (authoritarian, aunt1 and uncles1 and 2). Fairly problematic tbh. Awkward family get-togethers. Really awful pandemic politics.

I don't think I'd have so many kids having known them, it'd like having to be an office manager with all the in-fighting - but then giving birth to Dd almost killed me so I'd only have one more at most anyway.

My DD and twins are only 10 months apart. They are close and really look after each other.

DS who is 3 years older doesn’t have as close a relationship with them and kind of keeps himself to himself.

DH is close to his sister now, but they hated each other growing up (7 year age gap).

So my experience is yes, the ones closer together in age are close generally. But siblings will either love or hate each other regardless I think!

I’m one of 5 (all girls) and we all get on really well and always have, minus a few stroppy early teen years. I’m closest with the 2 closest to my age (4 and 6 years younger than me)

I’m one of 5. Maximum of 2 years between us all, a few of the gaps 18 months.

Better to be close in age I think, simply because play time is an absolute riot 😆

My parents weren’t very good, but I don’t regret having 4 siblings and although we’ve had our ups and downs we’re a tight unit with lots of funny memories.

I'm the third of six, I was closest to the youngest who is six years younger. I have five and the two with the strongest bond are numbers 2 and 3 who have a five year age gap. I think it's more personality than age gap that determines relationships.

I'm number 3 of 4 siblings. Large age gap (my older siblings are 15 and 13 yrs older than me). My younger sibling and I only have a year between us. We're very close....but we are all very close knit as siblings. My mum was the second of 9, again large age gap between eldest and youngest, but all very close. I don't think age gap makes much of a difference!

I've got 5 girls - single and two sets of twins. There are 20 months between the two sets of twins and then just under three years to the eldest. (nearly 16, 13 and 11).

The eldest gets on with everyone and they all really look up to her, one of the middle twins argues with everyone and the youngest two do everything together! However they are close, very supportive of each other and sick up for each other. They have great fun at Christmas and on holidays. Ideally there would have been a shorter gap between the eldest and the middle two as well.