…to question my DH response

[Ohmy88]

DH driving us back home after nursery run. We’re on the main road through our new estate & there’s a parked car on the opposite site. Silly woman pulls out of a side road (our side) & due to the parked car pulls out on to the wrong side of the road towards us. It was a silly manoeuvre at the best of times, we were just approaching the junction & she was cutting it fine pulling out in any event. But to pull onto the wrong side of the road with a car approaching her was ridiculous. Especially considering it was snowing heaving all had been all night - the roads on our estate are pretty lethal. “Idiot” I muttered under my breath.

But what has annoyed me most was DH reaction. He carried on driving towards her, expecting her to brake & reverse out of the way. I had to tell him to brake before he actually did! He then had to wind down the window to tell her who’s right of way it was & that she should reverse. She just ended up nipping through the minute gap DH had left & off she went…

Both cars were driving really slow (because of the snow) so nothing serious would have come of it had we collided. But AIBU to find that kind of pig headed OTT reaction annoying?! That’s what’s sat with me since… not the silly woman pulling out when she should have.

You're overthinking this, nobody died.

Why can’t I work out how to edit my post?!

Corrections…
parked car on the opposite SIDE
**snowing heavily & had been all night
silly woman pulling out when she SHOULDN’T have

@Ohmy88 you were not the one in control of the car. He was, and the situation was probably stressful enough without you backseat driving.

If you feel you cannot trust his driving skills or reactions, you drive next time but don't give him a commentary or instructions because that creates a bad atmosphere and is really annoying.

You are not his driving instructor nor his mummy.

I’m with you; when people do silly things I try to be sympathetic that everyone makes mistakes every now and again and not make it worse by acting like an idiot in response. It’s a bit sad when you realise that someone close to you is a person who acts like this.

He didn't react to her coming onto his side of the road in good time. I'd be pointing out with reactions / eyesight that dulled he's not fit for driving ;-) aggressively making a point is shit driving. Decent drivers are able and ready to adapt to conditions.

So her driving badly was a silly mistake.

His driving (which was poor in your opinion) was a decision and he should have done differently.

I would just chalk it up to, you weren’t driving. You don’t get to decide how he chose to deal with it.

In these situations I always ask myself, what would he have done if it had been another man? Usually gets to the nub of whether it’s sexist twatishnesss or just general twatishness. Twatishness of any stripe is unattractive though. After all, it would be you on the end of it if he wasn’t your husband, or it will be you on the end of it when he’s not happy with you.

But her reaction doesn't suggest she felt she had done a silly thing or made a mistake. The fact she kept going makes her sound entitled and like it was deliberate.

We all make mistakes when we're driving but if this was the case she should've reversed back and let him past when she realised.

It's her superior attitude when in the wrong that would have annoyed me

Backseat drivers are the worst.

It doesn’t sound like a particularly silly manoeuvre anyway! Surely the woman would have had to pull onto the other side of the road to get round the parked car and perhaps she couldn’t see properly that you were coming due to the parked car. The parked car is the one at fault here.