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AIBU?

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He asked to leave her..?

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pancakesagain · 10/03/2023 08:36

My partner has our 18 month old this morning while I'm at work. He text to say she's still asleep in bed and he needs cat food, would he be ok to leave her and go to the corner shop a 5 min walk away.
AIBU to think this shouldn't even have been a question??

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Thepeopleversuswork · 10/03/2023 18:08

Youthinkyoureuniqueyourejustastatistic · 10/03/2023 18:01

This reminds me of the evening we saw the little girl from 2 doors down crying and walking down the street alone.
We took her back home, window open, no answer/no car in the drive.
She’d be 4 at most.
We took her home with us about half an hour and a few peppa pig episodes later and we saw their car come back…didn’t rush out straight away with her.
They were frantically searching.
They’d left her sleeping to go to the supermarket- 20 mins drive away - for a full shop.
She got her little toilet steps and had climbed out the window.

Jesus wept….

Ladybug14 · 10/03/2023 18:32

Thepeopleversuswork · 10/03/2023 18:08

Jesus wept….

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Jesus Christ. There are no words to describe people like those parents. I guess 'cunts' might be a start

Katnissx · 10/03/2023 19:20

@Youthinkyoureuniqueyourejustastatistic omg please tell me you got the police involved! That is shocking 😲

Youthinkyoureuniqueyourejustastatistic · 14/03/2023 00:13

Luckily it’s a quiet village - I was about 18 at the time, so a long time ago- it did get me a babysitting job 🙃

They were honestly the loveliest people - just not very safety conscious.

Sixpennybit · 14/03/2023 05:10

I used to leave mine when they were asleep while I nipped to the shop.
I know plenty of others have.
I also used to leave them in my car while I paid for fuel.
I don't know anyone who takes their kids out of the car while paying for fuel.

RebeccaCloud9 · 14/03/2023 05:21

Leaving them strapped in in the car whilst you pay for fuel is different - you are in the same space and can continually see them. Going to a shop and leaving them in the house unattended is so, so much more dangerous. What if you are held up by traffic/an accident/a queue at the shop? What if something happens to you? What if the child wakes up whilst you're out and wanders around the house? So many things could go wrong and no one is there to help.

Sixpennybit · 14/03/2023 05:34

The bit about the fuel was in relation to a post further up thread.
The shop sounds quite close, he would be five minutes, hardly hiking up the Himalayas.

GoodChat · 14/03/2023 05:39

Sixpennybit · 14/03/2023 05:34

The bit about the fuel was in relation to a post further up thread.
The shop sounds quite close, he would be five minutes, hardly hiking up the Himalayas.

Quite close isn't close enough if your child wakes up and falls down the stairs or climbs into the bath and bangs their head or starts running water.

Blueblell · 14/03/2023 05:42

So he can’t be trusted to look after the dog either!

Sixpennybit · 14/03/2023 05:44

GoodChat · 14/03/2023 05:39

Quite close isn't close enough if your child wakes up and falls down the stairs or climbs into the bath and bangs their head or starts running water.

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They could do that while the laundry is being pegged out.

GoodChat · 14/03/2023 06:02

I'm not going to respond to you any more @Sixpennybit because our parenting styles are clearly very different and I don't want to argue with you.

EliflurtleTripanInfinite · 14/03/2023 06:32

pancakesagain · 10/03/2023 17:52

@moonpixel no what had happened the first time was he'd gone to the post office, leaving DS in bed and a window open. While out the dog escaped through the window and DS had got up, then was talking to the woman through the window who was knocking on the door bringing the dog back x

It keeps getting worse, not just leaving him alone but not even securing the house properly. DS could have got outside and been killed or someone could have taken him, if he is can't grasp how dangerous that was, he doesn't want to and he won't. This isn't a new parent not thinking things through, this is a parent who doesn't see keeping his children safe as a priority, he doesn't want to be put out by them at all, not even waiting out a nap to go to the store.

Fraaahnces · 14/03/2023 06:41

is this guy really smart enough to consider having two kids with…. Really? What the hell is wrong with him? Is he checking to see if you’re going to be paying attention to the ring doorbell? Why is he in charge of kids at all? Get him the fuck out to work and pay for childcare where they would be safe.

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