AIBU to coast along/'quiet quit' at work?

[itsanooo]

I'm autistic, and I recently had a meeting with my manager where they made it clear that I'm not ready for promotion to the next level because I'm not confident enough/don't have enough 'presence'. l completely understand that, I know that the next rung up requires some more presenting. It's a structured career so it's been difficult seeing my peers get promoted, but it's juts one of those things.

As a result, when I was setting my quarterly and yearly targets with my manager they based them off of my current job description which is an entry-level job. My previous manager would tell me that I was working above expectations, and would set me ambitious targets based off that, often borrowed from the targets for the role one rung above. However, my current manager didn't do that and as a result my current targets are things I'm already doing. As a result, I feel like I have nothing to work towards as I'm someone with 2 years experience with targets aimed at someone new in the field, and there's no point trying to push myself to improve this year if my autism is going to prevent me from getting promoted/progressing in my career.

So WIBU to just coast along from now and not bother to try and improve myself in the other domains of my work? I don't see the point of improving in all areas of my career if the one thing holding me back is something I can't change?

I know I'll get some comments saying it's the wrong fit for me, and I did quit this job and was honest that I was struggling with the social aspects and my manager and their manager said they would adapt the role for me. I'm currently looking for another job though

Nope nbu

is your management aware of your autism? If so, what support have they put in place for your development? Hopefully they are aware of the 2010 Equality Act?

Did they put in writing that they would adapt the role for you? If not, at any future meetings when those sorts of commitments are made, ask if they can follow that up in writing, or if not, you can - drop in an email your understanding of the commitment you were just given, etc.

And join a union.

Not U. I’m in a similar position. It seems a lot of performance management is about how ambitious/strivey I am for the next job, but I’m not cognitively capable of getting there (also ‘tism). There seems to be weirdly limited emphasis on the job they’re actually paying me to do. I guess I just create my own targets/things to derive job satisfaction from. Tbh I’m just glad to have a job and want to do it well. I don’t think that’s quite quitting, it’s just normal work behaviour, outside the striver/promotion chaser mindset.

Also not U but doesn’t sound like job for you.

Not at all unreasonable to just do the job you are paid for and not go above and beyond for a job you are almost certainly leaving. Good luck with your job search - hope you find something better aligned with what you want to do, and with a FAR more supportive management team.

In your reviews you're allowed an input into your targets. If you've already achieved them, say so.

You are allowed to just do the job you are paid to do. That is what I do.

So your manager has effectively told you that progress in your job isn't possible? Yeah, quiet quit that, for sure. The quid pro quo of going above and beyond is that you can progress. If you can't, there's nothing wrong with just doing what they pay you to do.

Why put things in the hands of other people? Your manager has a view of you but your career, development, happiness, the job you do, the jobs you apply for, how you promote yourself in your appraisals, CV etc - all of that is still in your hands. Quiet quit if you want, but is that really going to make you happy?

They are aware and I had some adaptations put in but they were temporary changes, things are slowly going back to normal.

My job is skills-based and I know I've improved since I started there 2 years ago. I exceed all of the targets of my current role in terms of work quality and efficiency, collaboration, knowledge, billable targets etc. My manager gave me examples of what they wanted to see in someone getting promoted and they included things like giving talks to the wider company, organising socials and running meetings for my colleagues - I guess kind of like 'extracurriculars' to my role. It feels like hoop jumping, and they all require social skills I just don't have.

I did write my own targets, but they've all been simplified. Even the training I asked to do has been knocked down as it's above 'my level'. It felt really patronising and the complete opposite of what it's supposed to do which is motivate us for the year ahead.

My manager was saying things like 'for someone at your level, I would want to see you starting to do X' when I already did X last year and should now be working towards building on that even more. I'm not boastful or have an inflated sense of achievement either, it's written in black and white in the notes for my performance review by my previous manager. I think they are trying to put me in my place and remind myself I'm only a [current job role], but I don't know why

I am in a similar position. I’m never going to be promoted-not that I’ve tried. I present really well in short bursts but I can’t maintain it. I lack a lot of executive function and find social situations quite difficult. I’m very good at my (quite basic but interesting) job, though, and am highly regarded. It was suggested to me that I ought to be contributing more, or running things, even extracurricular -that’s because I appear much stronger than I really am. For targets, I write things like “maintain”, “continue to do x”. I write notes throughout the year of anything new, different, how I contributed to this or that, or changes I suggested and implemented. Anything. It can be easy to forget. In my catch-ups with my TL, I let her know, and in the appraisal, we both have a copy of what I’ve been doing.

Feeling similarly after missing out in a recent promotion opportunity to someone far less experienced and skilled. I'll never be what they want so what's the point?
Thinking about my career options going forward. I don't plan to stay