To be annoyed at friend cancelling?

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I asked my friend if she wanted to do drinks one weekend, she said yes and then should we invite two other friends. I agreed and both other friends said they would go.

Now one of them has cancelled as she got her dates mixed up (that’s fine). But the original friend I asked has now responded and cancelled the entire thing and said we’ll change the day so we can all go.

It’s only drinks so not a huge deal where one person isn’t really missing out as such, as they might be if it was a weekend away or a day trip for example.

Plus it was only suppose to originally be me and friend, I was happy to invite others but it was more on a basis of if they can make it then fantastic and if they can’t it’s a shame but we can always arrange to do something else at a later date.

Maybe she is short on money. Seeing you both separately means paying twice to go out.

I can see why you're annoyed.

Is she usually like this or is it a one-off?

Cant you just reply and say you are still free and would love to still meet up and arrange another date in addition when you can all go?

We have this situation all the time with friends and we go regardless but always try and arrange another date as well. If 1 cant go then we wouldnt all cancel Thats madness we'd never get out.

I can see what you mean. You and original friend was meant to meet up just you two so you feel that because the other 2 friends have cancelled why can’t you still meet up as original?

There could be many reasons, she could be short on money so can only afford one meet up. How close are you 2 as friends? Could it possibly be that she doesn’t want to meet up with just you. Which isn’t a nice feeling, but I have experienced this. Not saying this is the case, but it could be a possibility.

Could you message your friend separately and say you know so and so had to cancel as she double booked but you’re still up for doing something is she is. And then see how it goes from there

Suggest it or move on. Nothing to fret about.

Me and her were friends separately, we’ve done weekends away the two of us etc so it isn’t a case of we aren’t close enough to go out without additional people.