Been dating a guy for a couple of months and he's unexpectedly been offered 14 months placement overseas.
The job isn't confirmed but it's looking likely.
I do like him and could see that there is potential for feelings to develop and to have a future with him, but as soon as I found out about the job, I've entirely backed off.
I really don't want to set myself up to get hurt, nor do I want to invest time into something that's a non-starter.
He thinks we shouldn't even be worrying about it, at least until it's confirmed, and then we should look at the timeline of when he'd actually leave and work out if we can make it work long distance.
I'm a bit torn here. I don't have strong feelings for him at this point, so it'd be a shame to walk away, but not heartbreaking.
I can't really engage with him properly knowing there's even potential for him leaving though, it feels like a waste of time and a recipe for heartbreak if he does go.
In the absence of this job offer though, I can definitely see this being a potential long term relationship.
I'm 43 m so it's not like I have my whole life ahead of me to meet someone as lovely as him. I have no issue being single though!