Who should go in and see the toddler

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Husband gets up at 2am for work.

For context - toddler usually sleeps really well but is having a blip of early wakings but last night, woke up several times. Toddler went back to sleep if I went in and lay them down. Between 10pm and 1am I'd been in four times and then at 1:50 when toddler woke up again, I was feeling fed up.

Husband rolled over and looked at the time. It was 10 mins before he gets up for work so I asked if he would go in this time. He said "I'm going to work in 10 mins". I said it will take 30 seconds to lay child back down.

He thinks because he was going to work he shouldn't have to and because I generally get more sleep than him it's unfair for me to expect him to. If he hadn't been getting up then anyway, I would not have asked.

Who is BU?

He is. He was getting up anyway

The toddler obviously! But DH a close second because obviously wasn’t going back to sleep and was about to get up so he should have taken that one especially given how many times you’d been up already. Is there a wider disagreement between you about how to handle the wake ups or something where he thinks toddler should be left to CIO?

I would have expected him to but I find decisions and conversations when you’re both tired are rarely logical

In this instance he is being unreasonable as he was due to get up shortly anyway

Other than him also announcing my world revolves around our children and that I'm obsessed with sleep, we generally see eye to eye on these things. Previously he has suggested leaving to cry however that's ok for him to say as he can sleep through the crying whereas I end up wide awake stressed listening to a shouting child.

I would agree. But his point remained the same at 1pm this afternoon about the fact I am stopping him having 10 extra minutes sleep.