To announce to family I’d like all photos of DC removed online

[Whatisgoingona]

I’ve always been very relaxed about posting photos online and happy for family members to take and post their own pictures

however recently I’ve been researching more in to “sharenting” and the dangers I’ve always been very wary of personal information like full name birthdate nursery but now I’m not so keen to have photos of DC face online

I even had an Instagram account just for him. How do I communicate this with family especially mother in law without being taken the wrong way

or am I being unreasonable

Just tell them you’ve changed your mind and ask for them to be taken down? You can’t force them to, but what do you think the response will be?

If he is the focus and only person in the photos yes I'd say say take them down, if he happens to be in others photos request they blur his face sticker it. Don't be that person who sticks themselves/their child front and center of every photo and then have apoplexy when people share their wedding/party photos!

If I had lots of photos online of your kids for whatever reason, I'd give you my details and it next to you. You'd have to go through and remove them all from my account yoursf.

YABU to expect people to take them all down themselves if you were all mad into sharing pictures for years yourself. It's fine to change your mind on it now and I agree you should remove your DCs pics, but you can't expect everyone else to do it for you IMO.

It would be up to you, that should read.

I would just change the rules moving forwards

YANBU, you’re the boss in this situation. I would just explain your concerns and setup a family whatsapp or digital photo album with restricted access.

I guess it depends how old DC is. If they are a baby it's a bit unreasonable but doable. If you are asking people to trawl back through years of photos then I think you are asking a bit much.

Nothing online is ever really gone even if deleted. Just do it going forward.

YABU and I Just would not be taking anything down.

Yabu.

@Whatisgoingona most people don't go back looking at old pictures anyway. So start by deleting all the historical pictures from your social media. I doubt anyone will even notice they've gone. Then when you talk to relatives you can already show that you have lead by example.

She can't ask people to trawl through their social media to remove photos.
Going forwards, perhaps but not to remove retrospectively

I also think you are being a bit paranoid. Ask for them not to be tagged and to ensure they have adequate security settings

It is unless someone has already downloaded it. I asked for images to be removed a few years back under the right to forget laws and they are completely gone from everywhere.

I don't know why I'm surprised people would refuse to take the photos down.

You may not agree but I think it would be really shitty not to respect their wishes.

There's lots of family issues posted about on here and most of them could easily be stopped from getting out of hand if we remember that these are supposed to be people we like/love and we wouldn't want to do anything to upset them.

Every single thing on here ends up feeling combative and ill tempered.