Moving as a single mum- 3 bed house

[MissHoneysHappyEnding]

Sorry my brain is a mess hence the multiple threads, I don't really have anyone who can relate to me IRL.
We are now definitely moving out of the family home. Three bed semi detached with shed and loft. I'm struggling to find where to start decluttering and putting it all in boxes.
I was trying to do the shed this afternoon after school pick up (it is my one afternoon with an early finish.) I think I must have made a start about six times, kids wanting snacks, phone calls, other urgent jobs. I cleared about three things, tried to lift something which I couldn't (and I'm pretty strong) found I couldn't and cried. The whole task just seems so impossible. Ex dp refusing to help as 'being in the house is too painful' although he'll take his share of the equity. I only have Sundays to myself and no one to help me (all old or have kids or just shouldn't have to as they're hard working parents too).
I'm drowning today. Even doing the washing up; bedtime, cooking tea and the occasional hoover along with my full time job seems too much.
Can I just pay someone to pack it all up? Do they really just do it all?

Could anyone help with childcare? School mums?

Start in one corner aim to be brutal, taking breaks if you feel you're getting indecisive.

Ex dp refusing to help as 'being in the house is too painful' although he'll take his share of the equity.

Leave every single thing of his untouched and tell him you will book a house clearance company to remove his things on x date using funds from his half. I bet his 'pain' will suddenly vanish.

Leave every single thing of his untouched and tell him you will book a house clearance company to remove his things on x date using funds from his half. I bet his 'pain' will suddenly vanish.

This, lazy arsehole.

This, don't pack his stuff, just pile it up, maybe in the shed.

There are full service movers where I live, but it's really really expensive. Last time we moved I did most of it at night after the kids were asleep.

I've already packed all of his and given it to his mum.

I paid to have the house packed and moved. They were amazing and it was all done in one day. It was expensive - it was 40% of the overall removal cost, but it was worth every penny. I did have a big de-clutter prior.

@Imnotachap are we talking hundreds or thousands?

The overall cost for packing and removal was £1200 - Northern city. Small 3 bed

Done it twice as a single parent of 3

hire a skip and fill it with all the crap
take days off work to get it done
Do a room at a time
Rope in the kids!
Free pages to get rid of big things
If you can pay for movers to at least dismantle and reassemble furniture

ps your ex is an asshole - he could at least take the kids out while you crack on

If you can, pay. So long as I can afford it I’ll do that forever.

Yes, they do it all, everything.

we put a suitcase and the kettle and a few files in the shower tray so they didn’t pack them and they did everything else.

I might tell ex he needs to pay. If he's not going to help. He didn't help when we were together so this isn't a surprise.

If you do use packers, pack yourself enough for a couple of days, clothes, cleaning stuff, plates. Put those on your car and watch as they pack every single solitary thing in your house in a matter of hours.

@WeCome1 sounds heavenly!

Can you take a few days A/L and do some while the kids are at school?

Before you do anything else, get some good local quotes. Removal companies are the best thing to spend money on. Get recommendations and 3 quotes. Ask how much extra for packing. Last time we moved, company came and packed everything day one. Done by lunchtime, got cleaners in to clean everything, stayed in a hotel overnight, everything delivered the next day.