WIBU to just not call my mother?!

[NotTonightDeidre]

I usually call my mum most days but the only time she calls me is if she didn't get to the phone quick enough to answer before it rings out.

If I miss a day or 2 the first thing she says when she picks up is "you've not rang". It's almost as if the phone doesn't work in reverse.

WIBU to just not call and see how much time passes? I'm currently on day 3 of not calling her. 🤷‍♀️

Does happen though. I was going to call my mum. I didn't. Decided to call her later. She dropped dead that night.

Doesn't haunt me or anything, but obviously I wish I'd called her.

MyDM has always done this and tries to guilt trip by saying “I thought something must have happened to you”. Well if you were that worried, pick up the phone! It’s so manipulative and plays into the whole parent/child power dynamic instead of being adult/adult which hopefully we’ve got with DCs.

If you don't want to speak to her (which is perfectly reasonable) then just don't call her. You are under no obligation to speak to her at all.

I completely understand your feelings OP. However I wonder whether you could identify a convient time in the week and ask her to ring you on say Tuesday at 6 pm or something? Even if she only rings you once a week it might make the situation less annoying. It might also make her get into the habit of ringing you do she dies it more often.
Also you could tell her you would like to miss a day a couple of times a week rather than ring every day.