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Is it me being too sensitive?

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KeysUnlocked · 06/03/2023 21:42

I'm really confused and cannot find any advice anywhere :(

Myself and a snr manager have not gotten on for a while now, mainly because he's a pr!ck (!) but generally because he seems to have gotten off on belittling and humiliating me since I started back last year 😔

Anyway, I usually stay in the office until gone 5pm when there is little staff, usually him and some of the other men... he will then make crude comments, as an example, he had asked when the next staff party was as he "needed to smell some wet pussy..." 😨and this was in front of my younger colleagues (20-250, he is 42 😑

Usually, these type of comments would not phase me as I am the LEAST prude person, but lately, and since I was sexually assaulted back just over a year ago, the things he is saying are really agonising me if I'm honest :(

Another thing he came out with just a cpl weeks ago - "...I had some wet pussy this morning, but then realised she was on her period..." 😡

He is a Senior and has a longer-standing employment with the business than me, therefore what are my options here, if any? I feel like I have no option, as I will not be taken seriously if I bring up the fact these comments are concerning me? :(

What would you guys do? x

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momtoboys · 06/03/2023 22:53

I actually gasped when I read what he said. He's a pig and he should be reported to HR immediately. And reported the next time he says something similar until something is done.

Mialouu · 06/03/2023 23:31

I wonder if because you said this bit....

Usually, these type of comments would not phase me as I am the LEAST prude person

Did you all previously talk like this? If so, does he maybe think he's not wrong if this is the norm for you all? I'd have a meeting with him with someone else with you, and just tell him it's not acceptable and you don't want to have to take it further.

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