How do I leave?

[Southernbird2021]

Ok so AIBU because I want to leave and I'm not here for judgement, just advice. Have a 2 year old DD. I have had PND and since birth have felt like DP could be more supportive. Examples include a complete unwillingness to do night shifts and early starts. Most weekends he will sleep in until 11am. I work PT 2 days a week, he works full time. My job I have to go in and his he can WFH.

I feel like I could ramble on but there have been so many things such as he says his job is more important as he's the earner, he comments on my weight and what I eat, swears at me etc.

I used to earn enough to live comfortably before I met him but now, cause of childcare, his role etc I rely on him. He says it's "our money" but when I ask him about spending suddenly its his hard work. Anyway I'm rambling but...how do I leave? Should I leave? I'm scared of how I will cope and what it will mean because he's an excellent dad.

he's an excellent dad. no he's not

He doesn't sound excellent. He doesn't respect his child's mother does he? He sounds horrible in all honesty.

You might want to ask MNHQ to move this to relationships.

YADNBU

You can go homeless? You can claim universal credit once on your own which will help fill the gap and potentially pay your rent if you don’t earn enough etc. is there not any family you could to temporary live with?

my child’s dad is the same but he complains cause he works all day and comes home to do dinner so I told him to try being a parent all day let me come home and you still have to feed baby dinner bath babu and put baby to bed so damn right your cooking dinner work all day or not.

you deserve more and better and so do your children and if your doing it all
alone you may as well be alone

An excellent dad? Doesn’t sound like it? Did you mean to write that?

He isn’t a good dad either if he’s doing all of this

I just meant in how he is with Dd and hoe much he clearly loves her

How do I do this?

What's your situation? Are you renting? Own your house? Can you get a job that will cover living costs for you and your DD?
Have a look at a benefit calculator and see if you could claim universal credit.

Take it from there.

This sounds hard, I'm sorry. Are you getting support with your PND firstly?

In terms of should you leave, only you know that.

he says his job is more important as he's the earner, he comments on my weight and what I eat, swears at me etc.

but a good dad doesn't run the mother of his children into the ground in front of them.

How you leave, if you do, depends on your circumstances, whether you rent/own, are married etc.

Contact Women's Aid and ask for help and support.
www.womensaid.org.uk/

You need a plan. This site is for the US but most of the advice is still helpful;
www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/getting-out-of-an-abusive-relationship.htm

The Freedom Program
www.freedomprogramme.co.uk/online.php

How is he an excellent dad if he lays in at the weekend until 11 am?

We have a mortgage together. I'm.actually in a job that pays well just I'm doing part time. Going to request to up my hours.

Is his job very mentally or physically strenuous ?

and hoe much he clearly loves her
but not enough to get up with her in the night or early morning. or enough to respect her mother. that is not the sign of a good father.