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Original poster

To be cross with my husband over this

106 replies

Inmy40 · 06/03/2023 20:42

Youngest dc has a club on a Monday night so goes off to school with a packed lunch to eat after school before club. Ham sandwich, carrot sticks, juice etc and 2 ice packs. DH just collected dc at 8 pm and they hadn’t eaten packed lunch after school so he insisted they eat it in the car at 8 pm. Admittedly dc was hungry. That ham sandwich has been in the sandwich bag for 12 hours. Ice packs no longer cold. Aibu to be cross that he made dc eat it or should he have waited until he got home and I would have made something fresh? Please tell me food poisoning is not on the cards for tonight as I have such a busy day in work tomorrow which would cause chaos if I have to miss .

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WeWereInParis · 06/03/2023 21:15

I have bad emetophobia (fear of vomiting) and wouldn't worry about food poisoning here - and I worry a lot about it.
I take ham sandwiches to work just in my regular bag, not a cool bag.

Original poster
Inmy40 · 06/03/2023 21:16

Unfortunately that can’t happen. He’s booked on the 7 am train to London until fri for a big conference.

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Cosyblankets · 06/03/2023 21:19

Are you not in the UK?
it's freezing here

Ihatethenewlook · 06/03/2023 21:20

I don’t think the sandwich is the issue here. Some people would eat it, some people wouldn’t. I think the risk of food poisoning is slim to none. The way you’re wording your posts is more concerning. You keep saying he MADE him eat it. What do you mean by that?

Original poster
Inmy40 · 06/03/2023 21:21

Not in the kids cloakroom. The school have their heating on

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xprincessxjanetx · 06/03/2023 21:22

YABU. I'd have eaten it.

Scienceadvisory · 06/03/2023 21:23

It's only c.4 hours longer than you would have had your child eat the sandwich. It's been kept cool all day and it's processed meat. It will be fine.

DojaPhat · 06/03/2023 21:25

I think this is what people mean when they say not to sweat the small stuff. A manky sandwich won't do any harm all else being equal.

ImAGoodPerson · 06/03/2023 21:26

I mean unless there is a massive drip feed and you are in Sydney today on their hottest day of the year then it seriously wouldn't even cross my mind. I doubt I even would have used an ice pack in the winter for my DCs packed lunches.

DramaLlama20 · 06/03/2023 21:27

Xrays · 06/03/2023 20:45

I would have got them something else. Maybe even stopped somewhere on the way home. Poor kid is probably starving…! A packed lunch that’s been knocking around all day is pretty gross. I mean it’s fine if you’re literally on a shoe string and you have to make do but it’s not very nice.

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MikeWozniaksMohawk · 06/03/2023 21:27

If he’s normally eating it at around 3.30/4 then by then it’s already 7-8 hours old. You’re not comparing fresh food with something that’s been out all day. It’s a few hours later.

footstoop · 06/03/2023 21:29

it's a ham sandwich & it's not the tropics!

rwalker · 06/03/2023 21:30

Unclench

WhisperingAutistic · 06/03/2023 21:30

I'm with you OP. No way would I have eaten that, or given it to my child.

Gymmum82 · 06/03/2023 21:31

It’ll be fine. I make the dc lunch the night before and leave it by the front door ready for the next morning. It’s never been a problem

footstoop · 06/03/2023 21:32

the chance of food poisoning is highly unlikely

CraneBoysMysteries · 06/03/2023 21:32

This just wouldn't enter my head that a sandwich eaten 3 hours after it was supposed to have been and was cool all day would be something to worry about.

I think YABU to be cross with your DH about it. He's trying to feed a hungry child with something that he has to hand and is perfectly fine to eat.

LookingOldTheseDays · 06/03/2023 21:34

The risk of food poisoning is slim to nil. How have we really become so ignorant about what we eat that this is even being asked?!

pornyshroudofturin · 06/03/2023 21:35

Wasn't that standard issue in the 80s? I was to school with a ham sandwich, bag of crisps, penguin (viscount biscuit or trio if I was lucky) and a Capri sun pretty much every day- all in a snoopy lunchbox, not an ice pack in sight. Was never a problem. Don't remember any of my friends having ice packs either.

bhiffandcip · 06/03/2023 21:36

That wouldn't register as a food poisoning risk with me. It has been in a cool bag for most of the time.

Why did your DH "make" him eat it in the car? Couldn't he have eaten it once he got home?

autienotnaughty · 06/03/2023 21:36

I wouldn't be concerned about the sandwich. I would be concerned about the child being made to eat

Flamingogirl08 · 06/03/2023 21:41

Isn't it only a few hours after he was expected to eat it? What changes so much in that time?

Also are we talking about cooked ultra processed ham? It's not like it's raw chicken is it? Food poisoning wouldn't have even occurred to me

Remaker · 06/03/2023 21:44

I’m In Sydney and it was 39 degrees yesterday so definitely wouldn’t be a good idea but in UK I think it would be fine.

I’m not on board with making a kid eat a somewhat wilted sandwich as a punishment for not eating it earlier or to avoid ‘waste’ so if that’s what happened I wouldn’t be happy. Do you usually feed your child dinner after they get home? If so surely it would be better to just have the carrot sticks in the car.

shakeitoffsis · 06/03/2023 21:46

Fucking hell it's a andwich

ReadersD1gest · 06/03/2023 21:47

I don’t think it entered his mind about food poisoning
Well, of course it didn't. There was little or no risk of food poisoning 🤦‍♀️