AIBU to be upset that despite......

[Podmog]

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yanbu, especially if you made extra clear that her nut allergy was that severe.

Unfortunately, I expect they get a lot of people saying they've got this and that intolerance, and begin to not bother properly checking their menus.

Which is terrible when you think your dd could have had a far more severe reaction, and they would be extremely liable. Will she be going there again any time?

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My son has a nut allergy very much like your dds and tbh although I would be pleased if they 'could' cater for him I would not 'expect' it and would certainly not expect them to change everyones menu to suit my son.... If the reaction is that bad then maybe your dd shouldn't have gone or you should have provided her with seperate food to eat away from the others.

Difficult one..and I do sympathise with you as I know how hard it can be

Jen

if your child has a life threatening allergy, and you take the time to discuss it with whoever is caring for her, and to ensure everyone knows it is serious, and then they serve something that could have made her very ill or worse... it is unforgivable, IMO

sometimes, people just don;t get how serious certain allergies can be.. that yes, someone touching you with fingers they have handled nuts with , could give you a reaction.

i think sometimes people get confused between true allergy and intolerance.

i would go and see them in person.

and not send her again

am glad it was not more serious

no-one is going to suffer by having plain rice with their curry, whereas Podmog;s daughter could have died from having cashew nuts in the rice. so i think it was reasonable to expect everyone to have plain rice on this occasion

that is disgraceful!
they obv didnt take it very seriously.
You must make a formal complaint - their being lax could have resulted in a fatality. they must be made to see this, so that in the future they never do it again for anyone else.
for you

That's awful. Glad your DD is ok though. My DS has a nut allergy but not as serious as your DD's.

YANBU. This is terrible. My fiend?s son has a terrible nut allergy as well. When he went to primary school my friend went in and explained it to all the teachers.

The teachers called a parents meeting to ask all parents not to send peanut butter etc into the school and some people said "He should be in a special school if it?s that bad". Fuc~~~g ignorant gits I think. And the same goes for the staff at the conference centre that your daughter went to...

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I have asked DS's nursery to inform ALL parents not to bring peanut butter sandwhiches, or anything with nuts into playgroup, and they all happily agreed. I think if someone disagrees they must be very selfish people. No one wants to have a serious nut allergy do they?.

Podmog -OMG what a terrible worry for you.Of course they should accommodate dd1 documented medical need. complain by all means

Podmog, how awful for you. So many of these threads are about such silly things, but this is literally a life-threatening situation.

Can I just check - did the organisers definitely know that the other children couldn't have nuts in their menu either? It's just that I wouldn't know this without expressly being told.

I would explain that you would be happier if they had just said to you that the couldnt or wouldnt create a nut free meal that day as then you could have chosen not to send if her allergy is that severe.

Im not saying she should always miss out on activities, but i think it would be fairer if you knew what the situation would truely be like beforehand and then either prepare or skip it altogether.

Alot of children do claim to have nut allergies nowadays though so people do get frustrated as most of the time it intolerances or plain hypocondria.

MOST restaurants won't commit to saying whether their products are nut free or not - most just say "yeah, it may have nut traces but it may not" just to cover themselves - it's so bloody annoying.