Pondering elopement, just don’t want to regret it.
DP doesn’t have much in the way of family. His parents are not together and live in another country, they had him as teenagers. No cousins and no siblings. He has his lovely grandparents who are in their 70s and we see them often and get on extremely well - thankfully.
Unfortunately my only DSis is manipulative and has bullied me for most my life and makes her contempt for DP very clear. On my side it leaves my parents, a couple of aunts and uncles and cousins.
We probably have 3 friends each that we like enough to invite as well as their plus ones/kids.
It’s a really small handful of people, probably at a push 25 in total. Feels really embarrassing!
Around me it seems eloping is just not a thing people do, especially not people our age (20s). I don’t want to regret not having the standard wedding day and pictures to go along with it. You only get one wedding day hopefully! but on the other hand I can’t imagine shelling out so much money on one day. The cost makes me shudder. We’ve been toying with the idea of marrying really cheaply at the local registry office then going to stay somewhere nice in the UK, followed by a honeymoon possibly abroad.
DPs only reservation is that neither his uncle or mum ever married so his lovely grandma possibly won’t get the opportunity to go to a proper family wedding if not ours
Would love to hear stories of people doing similar.
YABU - you would regret it forever
YANBU - sensible