To ask if he is being selfish here or is it me?

[coffeeplease33]

I would like to know if I'm BU here. My husband has just returned from a 6 day work trip on Saturday evening.
Our little one is sick at the moment so I'm stuck in the house with her today and whilst today I'm on a course I'm able to do it from home.
Whilst we were getting ready for bed he packs his bag for the gym to attend on his lunch break (that's fine) and then says he's going for a run when he gets home from work on Monday as he won't be able to go on Tuesday or Wednesday as I'm working. I'm also off Thursday and Friday this week but I will have to cancel my plans that I made for breakfast with my friend as again my little one will not be allowed return to school to next week and I can't bring her with me .I'd be lucky if my other two children don't get sick in the mean time.
Aibu or is that the most selfish thing you've heard? I'm being told I'm being unreasonable as I get much more time to myself usually when the kids are in school (3 hours) of those 3 hours I usually find fly by prepping dinner, tidying up after breakfast, cleaning up the pots he left steeping from dinner the night before when he cleaned up, walking the dog ect

It's not what you're asking, but it is linked...

Why can't your little one go back to school until next week? It's usually just a 48 hour exclusion.

Covid unfortunately 5 day exclusion

I can't see what he's done wrong? If he was arranging to go for a run when you need to work it would be an issue, but he hasn't unless I've missed something.

How long are the runs for, if it is 2+ hours then yeah he is probably taking the piss a bit. If he is popping out for half an hour 2 nights a week its not really that much of an issue, assuming he then pulls his weight with bed/bathtime.

It's rubbish you have to cancel plans because child is ill, but if you arent working those days then that is the sensible thing to do (and surely the whole point of not working full time so you can deal with these things.)

Sounds like he expects you to be default childcare provider and housekeeper. Since it seems like you potentially had more than usual on with work today, if you had to take a course. It would have been nice of him to not go for a run tonight and come back and help with some housework or caring for the sick child. I wonder in reality, how many men would actually think to offer to do this voluntarily though.

He doesn't get home from work until 7 so will come in get changed and then go straight out meaning he's gone until 8/815.
He will also go out Thursday night for a run and then Sunday mornings he gets up to do a long run and Saturdays we split as the kids activities are two different locations.