Just massively doubting myself and looking for a sense check…
I sent STBXH a timetable for child arrangements for this half term (i.e. the one we are a couple of weeks into) 4 weeks ago (includes drop off and pick ups and weekends). He has said he is too busy to look at it and has just responded on a week by week basis. This has left me in difficulties in terms of taking on work (am self-employed) and making plans generally (including back up
plans if we need to call in support from others e.g. for kids strike days). I have explained this (by email as I have had the silent treatment for a year), but he says he will not discuss this further.
It took me less than an hour to draw it up, so it would take less than that to review it. I don’t believe he hasn’t had that time in the last month. We both work/share childcare, but he has time to go to the gym, see friends, watch tv.
He’s now 4 weeks later responded about the rest of the timetable and said what I have suggested is fine.
I felt he was being unreasonable not replying (especially after I explained the difficulties it was causing) but now his response is reasonable, I’m doubting myself. A friend has suggested that actually his behaviour is very subtlely controlling (obviously there are other things going on but far too much for one post). Honestly I feel lost.
(We will eventually have a longer term plan, but with still living in the same house, complicated child arrangement, shifts, we are needing to do arrangements on a shorter term basis, but it is perfectly possible to do it termly or half termly).
AIBU to have wanted to response to the whole timetable? Or am I too demanding?