Ladies night... Mens equivalent?

SleepingStandingUp · 2023-03-05T12:43:55+00:00

I was invited to a Ladies Night in a few weeks. Bingo. Dj. Drag show. Strippers. The usual. Advertised at a local venue that normally does more family stuff and pretty cheap really. But I'm just imagining the male equivalent and the reaction if DHs came home saying they were going out for the night just with the lads for a few drinks, some music, entertainment and strippers. Why is the former more acceptable? Because we trust women / men to not keep with the strippers or cos we don't trust the women / men to sleep with the clientele?

InTheFutilityRoomEatingBiscuits · 05/03/2023 12:47

Every other night is mens night.

There are literally strip clubs catering to men every night in every city. There are red light areas catering to the wants of men. Pop into a pub anywhere, any night and count the men to women ratio and then, count how many men are there alone or by “themselves” as a regular/popping in on the off chance there’s someone in they know for them to have a pint with. Then compare that to women doing the same.

DaveyJonesLocker · 05/03/2023 12:49

"Lads night out" is a common term? I don't get your point? There are literally strip clubs that open every night catered to men.

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SleepingStandingUp · 05/03/2023 12:49

InTheFutilityRoomEatingBiscuits · 05/03/2023 12:47

Every other night is mens night.

There are literally strip clubs catering to men every night in every city. There are red light areas catering to the wants of men. Pop into a pub anywhere, any night and count the men to women ratio and then, count how many men are there alone or by “themselves” as a regular/popping in on the off chance there’s someone in they know for them to have a pint with. Then compare that to women doing the same.

I was thinking about the social acceptability of it not the access.

If I came on and said DH wants to go to a strip club, what reaction would I get vs DH said I'm not to go to ladies night?

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IamSmarticus · 05/03/2023 12:49

I completely agree. I went to a ladies night last week and it did cross my ming that I wouldn't be happy if my DP went to a similar 'mens' night with naked women jiggling their bits in his face!

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SleepingStandingUp · 05/03/2023 12:51

IamSmarticus · 05/03/2023 12:49

I completely agree. I went to a ladies night last week and it did cross my ming that I wouldn't be happy if my DP went to a similar 'mens' night with naked women jiggling their bits in his face!

Exactly. There's something seedy about a strip club catering to men. But a strip show for women is FUN!! Look at the Dream Boys. The equivalent women wouldn't get that reaction from society.

I'm absolutely not doing a "poor men" post😂😂. I'm just interested in the comparison of seedy vs fun, applauded vs sneered at.

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Kranke · 05/03/2023 13:07

Because women are seen as more vulnerable, their bodies are constantly sexualised. Men paying for women is seen as a power trip, having control over them and making them do what they want. Compare that to a burly bloke doing a silly dance for some women. The women are hardly likely to overpower him, they don’t tend to sexualise them (it’s usually seen as funny), they don’t have the fear of possible rape or attack in a private room or dodgy club. It’s like comparing apples and pears.

JudgeRudy · 05/03/2023 13:21

I'd say the biggest difference is the craic/vibe. Women on the whole aren't turned on by half naked gyrating men in the same way men are. It's not overtly sexual. You can appreciate 'the male form' or even giggle at it. I don't think many women would be thinking I wish it was just me and him. I'd say there's more emphasis on giggles and the group.

I do know some men who go to 'parlours' for a craic, so get in the hot tub or jaccvuzi with some topless girls and their mates. Maybe one in the group does go for 'extras'. Same with a lap dance joint. If you're not a regular the lads might chip in for a girl to dance for birthday boy. I think that's very different to going alone or 1:2:1

Icedlatteplease · 05/03/2023 13:25

I don't find either palatable.

Ladies night on its own bad enough but with a drag show?!?! Yuck

Icedlatteplease · 05/03/2023 13:29

Women on the whole aren't turned on by half naked gyrating men in the same way men are

WTF?!?!

Why yes the women go to these for the quality of dancing🤣🤣🤣🤣

Sexist nonsense

PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 05/03/2023 13:33

I think sexualised performances are seedy whether aimed at men or women.

JMSA · 05/03/2023 13:40

I could never be turned on by a male stripper, no matter how attractive. It just doesn't do it for me, as I find it tacky and cringeworthy. My partner (I don't have one, so this is theoretical!) wouldn't have to worry about me fantasising over the stripper and wanting to have sex with him.

Men are visual creatures and WILL be turned on by a female stripper.

I see women as being more trustworthy on their 'ladies night'; less likely to take it seriously or further. However this could be my past experience clouding my view!

KarenLovesRosario · 05/03/2023 13:50

Kranke · 05/03/2023 13:07

Because women are seen as more vulnerable, their bodies are constantly sexualised. Men paying for women is seen as a power trip, having control over them and making them do what they want. Compare that to a burly bloke doing a silly dance for some women. The women are hardly likely to overpower him, they don’t tend to sexualise them (it’s usually seen as funny), they don’t have the fear of possible rape or attack in a private room or dodgy club. It’s like comparing apples and pears.

Agree with everything you said and you don't get gay women going to female strippers on nights out. The thought would horrify most I think because of having empathy for being objectified and just not overly sexualizing other women's bodies and vulnerability.

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SleepingStandingUp · 05/03/2023 13:59

PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 05/03/2023 13:33

I think sexualised performances are seedy whether aimed at men or women.

You might, but the local Labour Club is unlikely to host one, but does the other.

And yes totally get the vulnerability, generally over sexualised stuff...

But even if a situ where you could even it up somewhat, so it's in a more controlled environment like a ladies night, it wouldn't be an acceptable option

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WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 05/03/2023 14:07

Ladies night on its own bad enough but with a drag show?!?! Yuck

I know it's a controversial one on MN, but it baffles me as to why a group of women might be assumed to derive great pleasure from seeing somebody mocking and grossly caricaturing them - and showing them how a man can supposedly be a 'proper', 'more fun', 'more interesting' woman far better than any of them ever could.