I have a Dd, 4, I was a Sahm after years of work, she started Pre school part time in September and I started working during the times she’s at Pre school.
Ive got weight to lose and saw what I think is a great deal at a local gym in a posh hotel. For €100 a month (we’re abroad) it includes use of the gym, indoor and outdoor pool, spa-sauna, jacuzzi etc and four classes per month-yoga, Pilates…
I have two and a half hours two days per week in between finishing my job and picking up Dd. My plan is to head to the gym there and have a swim and also take Dd at weekends in the pool, it sounded great to me and I was pretty excited as haven’t done anything just for myself since Dd was born (my choice really) and have friends who do padel at the weekends etc-Dd always seems to have clubs or parties or we have family time..in the evenings I’m too tired really, but will try to do one of the evening classes when Dd is in bed.
I was saying it to Dh and he was a bit dismissive, saying how he wishes he could go to the gym and it would have to be at night etc (works full time) I was saying how it would he perfect as I could rush from my job and do it in that time, thereby not missing any time with Dd. He said yeah it sounded perfect, but said in a *Lucky for some type way. I said I don’t do anything for myself anymore, he’s just bought an expensive man toy for his hobby and sees his friends a couple of nights per week, I see friends but always as a play date with Dd.
Just sat feeling pissed off that he compares it to things he does or can’t do and can’t be encouraging and say to go for it and enjoy it. It’s as if there’s a competition between us all the time of who has it easier/harder etc. Yes I work less days/hours but make a good amount, more than him per hour. All my other time when not working is looking after Dd, school drop offs, cooking, food shopping, cleaning, walking the dog etc.