I am fuming because - although he HAS helped with the housework and childcare this weekend - he has NOT cooperated with me IYKWIM. I keep asking for help/input into planning/organising stuff - in the longterm we really need to discuss/balance childcare/housework/his work/his study and either of us ever getting any 'quality' time - in the short term today I just wanted some input on meal planning/prep.
But apart from one suggestion (for a meal we don't have any ingredients for), most of the things I've said/asked him today have been met with silence. I know he doesn't mean anything by it - other than that he is preoccupied thinking about HIS stuff (his work, his study, his new fun hobby, his plans for going out on tuesday nights) to help me think about OUR stuff - but that is kind of the point, and it is getting right up my nose!
I know we need to talk calmly and rationally but so far he just ain't hearing my calm rational attempts to start this discussion. Is a strike a reasonable way of getting his attention? Should I at least go in there and TELL him I'm not cooking? Or should I just go cook, and think of some other way round this? (If it's the last, fgs give me some suggestions - I'm stuck!)