To be ‘disturbed?’ by reading stories/watching shows about tragic deaths?

[AlePoc]

I’m not sure if disturbed is the right term but like when I’m watching a true crime show or even just a news story about someone having a undignified or horrible death I find myself not being able to stop thinking about it for the rest of the day. I’m not squeamish or frightened by it but just more ‘that’s awful and such a terrible thing to happen to someone’ kinda feeling. Anyone else or am I too sensitive?

Soo why do you watch them then? There is absolutely no need

Exactly!

Ok you can't necessarily avoid things on the news but why on earth watch true crime programmes if they upset you. Makes no sense

My mum watches all these on Netflix etc and I have to distract myself too. They leave me feeling really weird and like you I find myself thinking about it all day. Some people are maybe just more sensitive than others I find them disturbing. I can't watch horror films either for the same reason

I don’t watch them. I think it’s weird that they are so popular. I love fictional crime dramas though.

Completely understandable to feel this way as it is unsettling to many people to think too hard about real crimes.

The big question is why on earth are you watching them?

I hate to see true crime being used as "entertainment"

I enjoy fictional crime, most of the time - except when the fictional victims are too close in age and sex to my children 😂

So don't.

I've worked with literal murderers, sex offenders, people addicted and suffering, total crisis. I can't watch any of that on a screen. I can't bear it. So I don't. Not even horror films.

Are you going to answer the question, OP?
My dad hated horror films with a supernatural element. So he didn’t watch them.
I suggest you avoid watching, reading or listening to stuff that disturbs you as entertainment.I’m also surprised that the solution has evaded you for years.

I don't watch things like that, because they don't appeal to me. But no, I doubt they'd disturb me. I'm not easily upset and am pretty good at putting things out of my mind unless they are things that directly affect me or my family tbh.

Then why do you watch true crime shows?

I think anyone who isn't 'disturbed' after learning about a tragic death has more of a problem than someone who is.

As others have said, why the hell are you watching these programs? You don't actually have to watch the news (I've not done so in years) and you won't actually miss much in life doing so. I just figure that if the world goes totally to hell I'd rather the first I knew about it be the mushroom clouds than months of worrying about something that I can't change.

Anyway, I'm waffling. Stop watching those programs and watch Alladin or something nice. Life is miserable enough without spending what little free time we have watching unpleasant stuff.

Jesus, switch off. Nobody's forcing you.

What a ridiculous thing to say.

I am upset and disturbed by people who can find watching people's real tragedy and suffering entertaining. Why do you do that OP? I don't think you are too sensitive - I think you are not sensitive enough.

To answer your questions I only watch them when someone else is in the room watching them.

Go into another room.

I watch these shows as the main thing I watch. Always wish I'd have worked in forensics solving these crimes. Does that name me weird? The odd one stays on my mind if it was pretty brutal or senseless, but a lot of them I just flippantly watch and you can see why it happened to them when you hear the lifestyle they were leading.

tell them it is upsetting them and ask them to watch something else

Talk about victim blaming Siennah

Why? OP can go into another room or do something else. No one should dictate other people's viewing.

I can't actually believe this poster made this comment either

because in a family people are nice to each other? These days you can choose when you watch something, and if it is distressing someone else, watch that at a different time, not a time when you both want to be in the room.

We don't have "another room" here, so unless you want me to go to bed or go and sit on the toilet, I would just ask my family member to watch that sort of stuff when I am out

Name change fail? You've quoted your own comment as though you're having a conversation with someone else!

I obviously haven't explained what I mean by that comment. I meant literally like ones where gangs are having shoot outs with each other, all arguing over drug turfs and let's say someone goes and shoots a load of people and then next week he's now been found dead, as someone has shot him. I wouldn't call that victim blaming, I'd say I can understand why he's now been found dead because of the lifestyle he was living and choices he was making.