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To be suspicious of his receipt!?

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whatthejeffdave · 03/03/2023 21:57

My partner of nearly 4 years, we don't live together (used to, kicked him out a while ago and I don't want to move back in together) we're on our way to a weekend break this morning, in his car. He got out to go shop, I seen a receipt in his central reservation, had a look, found a receipt for a bottle of vodka and bottles of coke for a night we weren't together.

Fair enough if he hadn't done me dirty in the past. We were on a break, he met with some girl and spent the evening with her. Whilst still living in my house. Also the fact he drinks too much, in my opinion.

What's got me worried is he panicked when I asked him when he'd been drinking vodka, (I've never known him to drink vodka) he was desperate to snatch the receipt out of my hand, ripped the top part away. I don't understand why he would snatch it and screw it up.

Anyway, I've seen it in his pocket. I seen all I think I need to see on it so don't think I need to look again. He's probably got rid of it now anyway. We haven't been great lately, infact i tried to break up with him earlier in the week.

Guess I just want to know, would this unsettle you?

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LittlePinkPill · 03/03/2023 22:09

It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks, you don’t trust him so there really isn’t much point staying with him and torturing yourself.

Theunamedcat · 03/03/2023 22:11

You dont trust him he doesn't even sound like a good decent person

So why don't you want better for yourself?

DaltWisney · 03/03/2023 22:15

I do you 'try' to break up with someone?

You either break up, or you don't break up. It's not like an exam, and if you don't pass you don't get to break up.

You clearly have an on-off volatile relationship. So just break up already. No 'trying' required

Purplecatshopaholic · 03/03/2023 22:19

Sounds suspicious and you are already unsure about him. Dump him - who needs the drama - find a nicer bloke who doesn’t drink vodka with other women..

passtheolives · 03/03/2023 22:22

I don’t even understand why you are going on a weekend break with someone you dont live with and who cheated on you

dont waste any more time with him

WhimBarWhey · 03/03/2023 22:23

Life's too short.

LadyLolaRuben · 03/03/2023 22:29

Ah OP, its confirmed to you that its time to call it a day. You knew this already earlier in week. Its time to make plans when its safe and when you're ready to end the relationship. Probably best not to do it while away and it sounds like he's in charge of transport. You don't want to be stranded unless a friend can collect you x

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whatthejeffdave · 03/03/2023 22:30

I guess he's either drinking a litre of vodka solo or he's panicked coz he bought it to drink with another woman. Neither are good.

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determinedtomakethiswork · 03/03/2023 22:37

He has behaved as guiltily as anyone possibly could! He wasn't going to drink that vodka on his own.

You have got rid of him before. Do the job properly now.

PoseyFlump · 03/03/2023 22:41

I know lots of women who drink vodka and coke. Not so many men. What's his usual drink of choice?

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whatthejeffdave · 03/03/2023 22:43

@PoseyFlump cider if he's on his own. Always has a few ciders in his fridge

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whatthejeffdave · 03/03/2023 22:44

I've NEVER known him to drink vodka, not with me, not when we've been out, not in restaurants.

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whatthejeffdave · 03/03/2023 22:46

We also didn't speak for 2 days after the date shown on the vodka receipt. I was in a mood coz we'd had yet another shit Friday night of him being an arse, I just presumed he too had had a crap weekend.

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KievsOutTheOven · 03/03/2023 22:46

PoseyFlump · 03/03/2023 22:41

I know lots of women who drink vodka and coke. Not so many men. What's his usual drink of choice?

Plenty of men drink vodka coke. That’s beside the point though.

The receipt wouldn’t make me jump to cheating, there are a million possible explanations.

However, the rest of this makes me think it doesn’t really matter what the receipt is for, he’s horrible and you should ditch him.

steff13 · 03/03/2023 22:50

What benefit are you getting from this relationship?

steff13 · 03/03/2023 22:51

Also, if you were "on a break" and he was with someone else I wouldn't consider that cheating. But, you obviously need to end it anyway.

OrigamiOwls · 03/03/2023 22:58

You don't trust him. Time to move on.

PoseyFlump · 03/03/2023 23:11

whatthejeffdave · 03/03/2023 22:44

I've NEVER known him to drink vodka, not with me, not when we've been out, not in restaurants.

Definitely a red flag, especially if you weren't talking to each other (but hadn't actually officially called it a break)

Find someone that deserves you Flowers

Fromwetome · 04/03/2023 00:04

Your relationship is unhealthy so yeah, not unreasonable to be suspicious

Siennahh · 04/03/2023 09:44

Your entire post and replies unsettle me. It sounds like a relationship between 2 six year olds.

TaunterOfWomenInGeneralSaysSayonarastu · 04/03/2023 09:48

Guess I just want to know, would this unsettle you?

No, what would unsettle me is the fact that he refused to "let" me break up with him. I wouldn't give a shit what he was doing with vodka or other women, I'd just want him to fuck off when he's been told to fuck off.

CheersForThatEh · 04/03/2023 09:48

I wouldnt be unsettled. I'd be single and feeling free from the stress and worry.

TaunterOfWomenInGeneralSaysSayonarastu · 04/03/2023 09:49

LadyLolaRuben · 03/03/2023 22:29

Ah OP, its confirmed to you that its time to call it a day. You knew this already earlier in week. Its time to make plans when its safe and when you're ready to end the relationship. Probably best not to do it while away and it sounds like he's in charge of transport. You don't want to be stranded unless a friend can collect you x

They don't live together.

All OP needs to is send him a text saying "it's over", then block him.
I'd do that right now if I were you OP. You don't need his permission to end it.

Rainbowqueeen · 04/03/2023 09:49

The whole thing just sounds exhausting and miserable. Why live like this??

Bestmum69420 · 04/03/2023 09:52

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