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AIBU?

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To expect her to pay?

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UsernameChang · 03/03/2023 21:45

Colleague went on a takeaway run for the staff team's lunch today. 7 of us and I gave the person doing the driving my card to pay. This has worked loads in the past for other things and they just transfer the money over. It's easier than having to do so many separate orders.

The colleague who went ordered and paid but then when she got back realised that her order was missing. She had been given the bag and not checked before driving away. It's about a 10 minute drive away so I suggested calling and explaining then going back but she couldn't be bothered.

I shared some of mine with her and so did another person. Then one person got the receipt and said they'd transfer x amount to me. Colleague said "Ah well I won't send you anything seeing as how I didn't get my order."

Another person straight away said it was her fault for not checking the order so she'd still need to pay and I said that was right and she owed me x amount. She thinks that I was unreasonable to expect her to pay when she didn't get what she paid for but I said that wasn't my fault and she had the opportunity to rectify it by going back with the receipt.

She then suggested that as she was the one who drove there everyone should cover the cost of her meal if we were so bothered. I said that she was being ridiculous and there was still plenty of time for her to get in touch with the restaurant and let them know the problem so she was choosing to waste her money, but she still had to pay and she owed me x amount, she has my bank details and I expect to be paid by this evening as usual.

It's under £15 so not as if it's a huge bill but I thought she was being a massive CF and that I shouldn't let this go. I'm planning to message tomorrow to remind her if it hasn't been paid. I've had a message from the staff member who also shared some of theirs with (potential) CF in our group chat to say she's paid and CF replied to ask her if she expected her to pay towards her food too as she shared it with her.

AIBU?

OP posts:
Hawdyerwheesht · 04/03/2023 09:23

Is it legal for her to use someone else's card? Would the manager be within their rights to refuse based on attempted fraud of her claiming a refund on someone else's card?

PrincessHoneysuckle · 04/03/2023 09:26

Was her order on the receipt? If not she just wanted a free lunch which you and your workmate have her

UsernameChang · 04/03/2023 09:37

As soon as she got back and realised I said something the lines of "Oh no, that's rubbish. Call them quick and let them know so you can go and collect or they can send a refund." She then just laughed and said "Ugh no I can't be bothered calling now. Don't worry about it." That's when I said she should have some of mine, she's fussy with food and only orders a few things off this menu which is the same for me so I knew she'd like it. I gave her half of mine and then my bottle drink as I had a can of something else in my bag. The other colleague then saw I was giving her half then offered some of hers too knowing she likes that dish and she had some of that too. She wouldn't have eaten anyone else's.

We work across different sites sometimes and today she happened to be the only one with their car. Mine was back at another site, it's a long story but is normal for us. I would have offered to drive back for her and I'm sure the other staff would have too if we'd had our cars. I even said to her at the time I had my car I'd have gone up for her.

I don't dislike this person at all. We all get on really well which is why this is just all a bit odd. I wouldn't want anyone else to be out of pocket for this and would make sure if it was my order that had been missed or wrong, that I did whatever was needed.

She's sent the money anyway so no need for it to be brought up again. I've sent her a thanks for sending the money message and said that I'm sorry she didn't get her order. She's replied thanking me for sharing and apologising for suggesting she didn't have to pay. I've replied and said not to worry and that I'll nominate myself for pick up duty next time.

OP posts:
Whataretheodds · 04/03/2023 09:46

How far away it it? Did anyone offer her petrol money?

Caroparo52 · 29/06/2023 17:09

If I was the driver I would be quite annoyed with the restaurant that my food was missing. With 7 people's meals its very difficult to know what's what and it is up to the restaurant to hand it all over.
I would also err on the side that my friends/ colleagues would be sympathetic and not only doll out food to share but exclude me from the bill as a thank you. It was up to you op to get a refund on your card.
YABU

NotSorry · 29/06/2023 17:12

@Caroparo52 It was nearly 4 months ago and the OP updated a resolution - it's just above your post

Caroparo52 · 29/06/2023 17:18

So it was...

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