To ask what to buy as a wedding present for a couple who have been together 15 years and have two kids?

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Very settled, don't want for a great deal in material terms, own their home and loads of nice stuff in it so no obvious need for typical wedding presents and I don't think they would want that.

Want something which is significant for both of them and something which is appropriate for a wedding but they aren't making a fuss of the wedding; it's a small civil service. I don't think they'd like anything obviously commemorative or "weddingy" if that makes sense ie crockery or jewellery. They are big readers, outdoorsy. Neither particularly materialistic. Two kids approaching teen years.

Money

Unless you know they drink champagne I’d vote against that or other alcohol.

I don’t drink and would not be pleased with that as a wedding gift if I had a wedding…..

Money. Don't over think it.

Money for a meal out and the offer of being baby sitter for the night

Selfridges or John Lewis vouchers. Let them choose something they want.

I find people that get married later in life, when they already live together, usually want cold hard cash.

As pp cold hard cash

The best gift for them is £££.

I think something nice for the garden would work if they're outdoorsy types.

Have some! I have no idea why we have so many. I am pretty minimal though so maybe my idea of “too much” is not too much for others.

Id appreciate a voucher for a locally owned restaurant though; but one that people know I like rather than just a generic restaurant. And if it was a nice one, chuck in the offer of childcare too 😂 although maybe not such an issue for older kids - mine are still young. We love food though.

Yeah. My partner and I do drink, but we drink different things mostly - there are very few things we would both enjoy.

Id bloody love the champagne but my partner doesn’t drink it at all. So it would be just a gift for me really.

I generally avoid alcohol as a gift for that reason. Except from if there is a “nice” alcohol which means something to the couple. I bought my cousins a bottle of whiskey from a brewery they visited on their first holiday together, for example.

Charitable donation.
Otherwise, just take them out for a good meal, or cook for them at home - whichever you prefer.

I bought a couple like this a piece of artwork which had the names of various places they had lived/ visited/ loved in the shape of a map of the UK. They loved it.

I also bought an anniversary present recently- their favourite song but in frequencies. You then hold your camera from your phone up to it and it plays the song. Sounds weird but it's great. I ordered one for a special birthday too and it went down a storm.

I’d love both of those.

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Like this.

They're really great. You can get all different types/ budgets. I think they're really personal.

My brother flips his phone out and dances to The Stones regularly as he passes his birthday one in the hall 😆

Something that you can use, so like a yummy food gift basket, some exotic wine, or what about an experience, a voucher towards something? Or a couple for a free house clean (boring, but practical)

We had a no gifts wish for our wedding, as most guests had considerable travel costs. We therefore didn’t have a “list”. So anything we received was really unexpected and appreciated. We both do drink, so loved the wine/champagne gifts. Who can ever have enough glasses/mugs, so the these gifts are still used 10 years later. Groups of friends or family grouped together and gifted, for example, vouchers for a local art gallery (we took our time but waited and chose 2 paintings that really mean something to our wedding) and a wine society membership and voucher. We also received a canvas print of various wedding photos (obviously received after the wedding) which takes pride of place over our bed. For us, “experience” vouchers would probably have been a waste of money, as we never get the opportunity to use them within the timeframe. You know the wedding couple.

Membership for The National Trust, RSPB or similar. I gave that to friends in a similar position and they were delighted with it.

God just give them money. I'm not ungrateful but most of the suggestions here wouldn't be of use to me so would just be a waste of your money. I don't get why people would rather give something that may quite possibly not be wanted or needed just to be able to give an actual gift rather than cash.

National trust membership (might need to club together with someone) to last the first year of their new marriage.

One of those deli boxes delivered monthly for say three months (has cheeses and deli meats with an appropriate bottle of wine)

A cheese and wine tasting box. We had an amazing one with ten cheeses and ten vials of about 1/4 bottle of wine in each to pair with the cheeses plus a full booklet.

If they have a garden something for that like outdoor cushions or new gardens tools (so useful but the last thing you want to spend your own money on)

Theatre ticket vouchers.

Afternoon tea somewhere really fancy local to them.

National trust membership for a year?

I think a really nice photo of them as a couple or as a family in a good silver frame is a good bet. If you don’t have a good one already, you could take one off FB as a placeholder then you can take another candid shot at the wedding and print for the
frame (as you will know what size to print it).

We were given a vineyard tour with wine tasting and a meal. Absolutely loved it as a gift.

In similar circumstances a group of our friends clubbed together and gave us a voucher for a week in a cottage up north. It was lovely.