To want to reduce sons contact with dad on weekdays

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This week will be the 4th time in the past few months I've had a call from the school to say my son wasn't collected. His dad just didn't remember - when I called him to ask what was going on he said oh I just got caught up in work. He is WFH

Once, I can understand, twice was frustrating. I think 4 times is taking the piss tbh. Today is his day to collect him and he's asked me to leave work to get him because apparently he's too busy.

At least he asked me I guess. Much better than receiving that phone call which quite frankly is just embarrassing at this point.

If he can't commit to collecting him on a school day, would you try to restrict his access to just a weekend? I know that's easier said than done. But my god he makes me so angry. Treats me like absolute shit and I'm always the one picking up the slack!

I would think with the evidence of him not picking his son up. Then I think any judge is likely to side with you on this.
The child's interest are top of agenda.
I would let him take you to court.

If he's stupid enough to threaten you with the police then he won't pursue a contact order. He's just making idle threats and expects you to be scared enough to allow him to continue with this behaviour.
Put in writing if he fails to pick ds up from school again, all mid week contact will be ceasing. Ignore anything he says about "taking this further". He won't, but even if he does, there won't be any battling going on.
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"Take it further" What...like collecting his child on time?

You need to leave it between him and the school. Let them know he is the one they need to contact on that day. Then make yourself unavailable.

Yes. This. Why are you letting him do this?!! Sort it out.

He doesn’t pick up the phone. He’s deliberately ignoring the school. That means he knows damn-fucking-well that he’s left his son there alone. He’s an utter failure.

Get to court. He’s using it as a threat but men like this never really give a shit. The fact that he’s failed to collect his son from school will not look good in court.

The police won't do anything for him if you both have pr and there is currently no court order in place saying where the child has to be every day. Some dads are actually sometimes really disadvantaged because of this, but you would be well within your rights to stop weekday contact in my opinion.

If there is a court order in place, he is breaching it by continuing to not pick up his child at designated times anyway.

If you have evidence from the school that your child has been forgotten four times you have nothing to worry about!