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To leave another WhatsApp group?

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sociallyawkwardz · 02/03/2023 10:00

I'm socially awkward, as my name dictates, and find group chats stressful. I had to leave my NCT chat after DC's birth.

Useful background info is that I'm autistic, but also emetophobic. My fear of illness and vomiting can take over my life and I have to work really hard to not let it.

I'm in a parents WhatsApp group for my other DC's Year R class, which I find useful to discuss homework etc. But I can't cope with the illness chat, particularly when it comes to sickness bugs. Today they're all posting about their kids dropping like flies and I'm barely holding it together worrying about my DC succumbing too.

I have come out of the chat and not looked at it since this morning but it's already sparked severe anxiety.

Going forward I need to protect myself from things like this because I'm very aware of my own weak points and what can and can't be changed about myself. Emetophobia isn't going anywhere. Two HG pregnancies didn't even help it.

People have a right to talk about what's going on with their kids in these chats, it's literally me that's the problem here. AIBU to leave, quietly? I'm worried it might make me look bad.

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hopeishere · 02/03/2023 10:09

If there is otherwise useful information on them can you not just mute them for a few days?

Coffeetree · 02/03/2023 10:44

I hate WhatsApp group chats that are related to work/school but are unmoderated, so you have useful information buried under piles of inanity. I mean you can mute them, but you end up with 20 unread messages and like 3 of them might actually be important so you have to read.

The only WhatsApp group I've stayed in is a work-related one with strict rules about staying on-topic.

How much actual info do you get from this group OP? Just leave.

Orangeis · 02/03/2023 11:02

You can leave, but would you potentially miss out on party invites etc? Isn't it better to know if there's an illness going around rather than being taken by surprise?

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