... to find swearing utterly boring?

[ImJustMadAboutSaffron]

I'm on a train to work surrounded by six schoolboys about 15. Talking about football and swearing constantly when swearwords aren't needed.

They're all using the F word and even starting sentences with it: "Fucking ... " and then just a normal ordinary sentence. Swearing not required.

It's totally pointless and boring to swear when swearwords aren't needed. If I use swearwords it's in context - extreme anger, shock etc. Otherwise it loses its currency.

And why is the F word the only one people think of? I've heard people say it's a symptom of a lack of vocabulary and always disagreed because of swearing stuffed into a sentence at random. But I'm now inclined to agree as nobody seems to know any other swearwords!

Fuck off 😂

You too 😹

Oh gosh well you could buy some noise canceling headphones, listen to music, play a game on your phone, read a book, day dream...find a way to distract yourself because then instead of listening you'll just hear background noise.
Or of course you can move and stand elsewhere?

So it's up to OP to shrink back and make way for other people who have the automatic right to have the shared space exactly as they want it, rather than what many others would like?

Maybe OP could also have stood up for the journey, to enable one of the boys to manspread across two seats as well. After all, it seems like it's their space to treat as they prefer, and nobody else matters at all.

Just like with clothes, sportswear, music etc., it never ceases to amaze me how desperate many teenagers are to stridently emphasise their staunch individuality by ensuring that they behave exactly the same as all of their peers!

Just like with clothes, sportswear, music etc., it never ceases to amaze me how desperate many teenagers are to stridently emphasise their staunch individuality by ensuring that they behave exactly the same as all of their peers!

Twas ever thus .
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YANBU!
There's a couple of people at work like this.
Literally can't go a sentence without a swear word, just every day conversation.
They'll be telling you how they were walking down the fucking street, and fucking Betty fucking said hello just as they were about to go into the fucking shop, they got fucking talking and then she went and bought her fucking paper before getting the fucking bus home.
I mean, just.... why?! 😁
Save your swears for when you're genuinely annoyed, you get instant attention as OMG she just did a swear 😳😁 They know you mean business lol

@CremeEggQueen There's a woman in a different department at work to me like this. She's the most senior professional services staff member in the department and regularly uses the f word in conversation with the team. I've been there to hear it.11 times in one conversation. She's a massive attention seeker anyway. Always going on about holidays and designer bags and where she's been. Holds court and the staff listen because they feel they have to. She doesn't like me because I didn't listen to her rubbish.

She never does it in front of senior academics strangely enough!

I heard about her getting ratted and dancing on the table at a Christmas party and always sneaking out smoking too. As she worked her way up from being a work experience person, apparently, with terrible GCSE grades maybe she has imposter syndrome? Or maybe I'm overthinking!

Swearing as attention seeking there's an interesting concept.

She never does it in front of senior academics strangely enough!

I find this even weirder, really.

I sort of get it when you get the people for whom it truly is a sign of highly restricted vocabulary and seriously lacking social skills - the swearing as punctuation - and they can't help or regulate it, regardless of setting; but when people can easily avoid doing it at times when they know it won't go well for them, that does rather suggest that they deliberately affect it the rest of the time - not just in front of others whom they know appreciate it, but in front of others whom they know likely won't appreciate it, but who are junior to them or otherwise not in a position to sanction them for it. That seems particularly pathetic to me - and quite possibly abusive in some circumstances.

Reminds me of a thread some years back when someone was complaining about sweaty bin men.

Everyone modifies their language depending upon the situation, that's not weird at all.

Even if you don't swear, the language you use will change depending on whether you are talking to your friends or to your bank manager.

No, OP, I agree.

Fucks me right off.

Everyone modifies their language depending upon the situation, that's not weird at all.

Even if you don't swear, the language you use will change depending on whether you are talking to your friends or to your bank manager.

I get that, but my point is that, if you're capable of not speaking like that, I just don't know why anybody would ever choose to make themselves sound so boorish and uneducated - every other word an entirely superfluous swear word used as punctuation that only serves to obscure what you're actually trying to convey.

There's nothing wrong with informal, when appropriate; but that isn't informal, it's just asinine and makes the speaker sound really rather stupid.