AIBU thinking it’s not normal play?

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My 5yo son told me that his friends pinched his willy and laughed. He told them to stop but they didn't listen. He doesn’t want to tell the teacher because apparently he ‘never tells on his friends’. AIBU to think it’s not normal play?

You need to report this to school as a safeguarding incident.

It could be normal play or it could be a safeguarding issue. Your child is 5. You tell the teacher.

It could be 'normal' play but needs to be addressed very quickly to stop it happening again in case there is something more concerning going on and to stop it happening again.

You will need to report it, not rely on him. Hope it all goes well.

Definitely report that.

Im sure it's nothing overly concerning (apart from them picking on your son) but it needs to be reported because they need to be taught that grabbing peoples genitals is not ok. They are 5 now but they will be 10, then 15, then 18, and then being accused of sexual assault. And when that happens, someone will be shouting about how we need to be teaching our sons about consent (rightly so) when the opportunities have been there all along

Not normal at all and I'd hope that the school would be checking that the other boys aren't subject to that at their homes.

I think it is normal but to be nipped in the bud ( no pun)

In itself as an isolated incident I'd say it could be normal play, but I'd report it to the school because it might form part of a bigger picture that would suggest its not normal. If nothing else the teacher and parents need to have a chat about consent and respecting other people's bodies and our own bodies.

The following is often used to identify whether sexual behaviours are considered normal for an age group. This is for 0-5 year olds

At that age? Normal yes, acceptable no. The kids all need to be taught that this isn't okay.

i dont think it is normal,
to show yes perhaps, but not to pinch.

Thanks everyone 🙏 your replies assured me that I indeed need to speak with his teachers.

normal -yes

acceptable - no

Time to call school, speak to HT and explain. Normal to be curious but that hurting and crossing boundaries.

Spoken to the teacher, hopefully it will get sorted. Thanks for confirming that INBU as my DH just advised to ‘push back’ and said something along the lines ‘boys will be boys’ 🙄

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