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AIBU?

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To not what the school holidays planned for me?

6 replies

MrsSnape · 10/02/2008 13:52

My mum phoned today and told me that my grandma has said I can take the kids down to see her on tuesday. As it happens I do my shopping on a thursday but I sort of huffed and puffed and agreed to change my shopping day.

Thursday is my sons birthday so we're out all day celebrating that.

My mum wants me to go to my grandads with her on friday, I know I should but its such a faff to get there, I have to get two busses each way, one of which takes almost an hour and for myself and the two kids it costs almost £10 in bus fairs which I can't really afford this week.

I'm getting a car in two weeks so was I unreasonable to say I'll take the kids to see him in a couple of weeks when I have the car?

Asise from that, I hate having my days planned for me, I hate having to go and visit people as my kids get bored and start playing up, I get stressed and its a nightmare.

Now, monday I have to go to town, tuesday is booked with my grandma, my mum wants me to go to her house on wednesday (which involves another 2 buses each way trip), thursday is son's birthday and friday my mum wants me to go to my grandads.

Thats my week booked up. I look forward to the holidays as a time to relax and it just turns into one massive stress.

AIBU for a) being fed up at the way everyone plans my week and
b) telling my grandad I'll go down when I have a car in a couple of weeks?

OP posts:
MrsSnape · 10/02/2008 13:52

sorry that should say I do my shopping on a tuesday, not thursday.

OP posts:
chocolatespiders · 10/02/2008 13:54

wait till you have a car then kids can take some books cames etc so they wont get bored..

chocolatespiders · 10/02/2008 13:54

games not cames

MsHighwater · 10/02/2008 22:57

YANBU

idlingabout · 11/02/2008 12:48

I think your mum needs to realise that it is your life and that she seems to be treating you like a child. Of course YANBU. Managing more than one child during half-term is difficult enough without other people monopolising your time. Dig your heels in and say you will get around to seeing everyone when you have your car and when it is convenient to you.

Kitti · 11/02/2008 14:05

YANBU - all those bus journeys - I avoided buses at all costs with kids!! Still - even when you get a car you should be allowed to make your own decisions- sounds like your mum expects alot from you and you're going to have to put your foot down with her else she'll have to driving her everywhere in future!!!

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