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Is friend being a dick or am I over sensitive

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Irishmumof02 · 01/03/2023 10:13

I could be over sensitive here but also this girl just rubs me up the wrong way for some reason. At the start of the year I decided I wanted to lose some weight my depression was getting bad and honestly I just wasn’t happy with myself in how I looked. Iv lost two stone now and I’m feeling a lot better in myself. I’m sticking to a good diet and exercising regularly. It’s been the past few weeks other people have been telling me I’m looking far better and it’s gave my confidence a boost but since a friends birthday a few weeks ago this girl has been doing my head in. Keeps telling me I look sick now and accusing me of starving myself because at the party I didn’t eat anything more than a few cocktails sausages when before I would have stuffed my face. She’s starting to say things to me in the group chat and sending pictures in of food like take aways she’s eating telling me would I not rather that that rabbit food. Don’t know why she’s saying rabbit food because it’s not like I only eat salads. It really came to a head last night because in the group chat we are planning another friends birthday and she wants to go for a meal so we are arranging dates and where to book and this girl started on me about no point me even going as I probably won’t even eat anything they serve and il make everyone else feel uncomfortable. I don’t talk about food to them or tell people what to eat or bang on about diets or anything. I honestly feel like just telling her to fuck up because she’s making it now I don’t even want to be around my friends when she’s there. I will add she likes to be centre or attention a lot and has made people uncomfortable in the past by trying to flirt with their partners in a joking way but to the point people will leave the event she also has no boundaries and will often try to get people to talk about their sex lives in public places very loudly.

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Bananaramad · 01/03/2023 12:05

I'd play dumb, and say "ah no you really don't need to starve yourself or eat rabbit food to loose weight/get healthy, if you want any tips or any of my food ideas let me know" smile sweetly

Moxysright · 01/03/2023 12:07

YANBU and yes you’re friend is being a d!ck. It sounds like she’s jealous that you are making a positive change in your life and she may well feel threatened by that, hence her trying to sway you off track.

TomatoSandwiches · 01/03/2023 12:08

Personally I would probably be quite dismissive with an " anyway, back on track, where does everyone fancy going.. etc " but your killing with kindness works just as well, hopefully she will get the hint!
Oh and congratulations on your weight loss.

Halfcuthalfsizedhalfwaythere · 01/03/2023 12:18

@TheSnowyOwl so do you. Don't be so nosy. It's none of our business! To the OP it's nice your in a better place now. And I'm glad your friends are supporting you with her behaviour. Doing it on the group chat is a good idea ☺️. Enjoy your meal out!

DrManhattan · 01/03/2023 20:33

She's not your mate she's a silly little dickhead.

momonpurpose · 01/03/2023 21:05

Absolutely put her in her place I guarantee if next time she does this in the group chat or in person you say something like : You seem so interested in my journey of getting healthier. I'd be happy to help you do the same. It'll be like wizard of oz when they throw water on the witch

BMW6 · 01/03/2023 21:43

"Is my weight loss making you feel bad about yourself? Are you feeling a bit insecure?" <head tilt>

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