To think people treat confident people more positively

[Chaytor]

Long story short - I became more confident in 2008 after a traumatic event and years of low self esteem. I became more outgoing, extrovert and other people commented that I seemed much happier. I got on with people much better generally. People who'd previously taken the piss out of me in some way suddenly seemed to genuinely respect me and get on better with me. This in turn gave me a feeling of hope that the future would be better. I then read somewhere an article encouraging emotional robustness in children as it said confident people tend to be treated better. This certainly chimes with my experience. Does anyone agree?

I'm not sure. I can think of several confident people that are annoyingly loud, showy or full of themselves.

That’s not confidence, it’s arrogance.

Yes, confidence makes us feel safer, more secure. Shyness/worry/uncertainty make us feel nervous.

It is instinct but can be foolish as shy people are as likely to be right. Easy to be led astray by a confident bullshitter!

That’s not confidence, it’s arrogance.
A huge amount of times they overlap though- you’ll have someone say something and be pushy and people will say they’ve great confidence. But op, it sounds more like you’ve settled into your own skin, and that’s different, you seem happier to your colleagues and are obviously lovely to them too so I think that’s what people warm to. Go you!!

Ah thank you

Agree with this. I feel much safer in difficult situations especially, when there's a confident person around

I don't know, I think some people (men and women equally guilty) HATE women who are confident and content in themselves.

Yes, of course. It’s so much easier to be around people who are confident in themselves. Shy, nervous and anxious people are hard work.

I’m talking about when you first meet someone rather than long term relationships which is presumably what this study was looking at.

Yes -realistically in the context of more superficial relationships and initial meets

Confidence goes a LONG way in a lot of jobs. In my current job anyone who can come in and take responsibility for things is always viewed positively, even if what they are actually doing is not ‘best practice’. We all have too much work to do and just want to hand things off to someone who will do it with zero angst or faffing about.

Yes confidence is great - not to be mixed up with arrogance, brashness, self promotion and fake behaviour. True confidence can be as silent as the hills, but if it’s genuine it will be obvious to all.