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Walking across someone's front grass is not acceptable?

58 replies

gobbleguts · 28/02/2023 15:19

I've always considered that you use a path when walking towards someone's house, I share a front garden with my neighbour so we have half the grass each.

My neighbour and their guests repeatedly walk across our side of the grass to get next door instead of taking an extra 5 seconds to follow the pathway!

Even delivery couriers do it! It's infuriates me! It's so rude. Is it just that others think it's fine?! I am I the unreasonable one to think it's not on?

I just find it so rude to walk across someone's property because you can't be bothered to take the pathway. Especially during spring when I've refilled patches with grass seed and trying to get the lawn looking it's best and someone tramples all over it Angry

AIBU? Or are they?! Grin

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Custardbanana · 28/02/2023 16:15

Automatic sensor sprinklers.

stbrandonsboat · 28/02/2023 16:17

I once found a neighbour following his toddler around our front garden. His rationale was that she wanted to go there. I'm extremely territorial, garden proud and I felt very annoyed.

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gobbleguts · 28/02/2023 16:19

@TheySeeMeRowling I have said something in the past and they laughed and said ooops sorry! And then carry on!

This diagram is not the best but here you go.

I could put a low fence on my side near my drive but they will probably still cross from wherever the fence ends.

Walking across someone's front grass is not acceptable?
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ApolloandDaphne · 28/02/2023 16:21

I don't really understand which bit of grass is yours and which is theirs and which bit they are walking across.

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gobbleguts · 28/02/2023 16:25

Added my side and their side of grass separated with a dotted line, also the arrows show where most people cross

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CamdenLeisurePirate · 28/02/2023 16:27

The diagram has made me more confused. Where exactly are they walking? Diagonally across the grass from the road outside your house to their door? How do you know which grass is yours and which is theirs? Who owns the strip of grass separating your houses? I have so many questions..

CamdenLeisurePirate · 28/02/2023 16:27

Sorry OP, cross posted with you!

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gobbleguts · 28/02/2023 16:29

This should be the right way around.

We know which is ours due to the boundary plans.

Walking across someone's front grass is not acceptable?
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ConcordeOoter · 28/02/2023 16:32

YANBU.

Rent a digger, pull the whole thing up leaving, fill hole with water and piranhas, then cover in a mossy green net so it looks like a lawn.

LostAtTheCrossRoad · 28/02/2023 16:32

I'd get some of that short fencing and fence your side and front. If they mention it just say you're experimenting with some garden ideas and need to mark the boundary. Nice and light, don't get drawn in.

Wanttothrivenotsurvive · 28/02/2023 16:32

Same! It drives me mad! I also get delivery drivers using my lawn as a turning area as I’m
at the end of the culdesac. Last week I put fruit trees and planters all the way along the ends of my boundary then happily watched on as the poor drivers had to reverse out rather than across my grass 😬

ConcordeOoter · 28/02/2023 16:34

Last post should say "leaving a hole like a small swimming pool"

ConcordeOoter · 28/02/2023 16:35

LostAtTheCrossRoad · 28/02/2023 16:32

I'd get some of that short fencing and fence your side and front. If they mention it just say you're experimenting with some garden ideas and need to mark the boundary. Nice and light, don't get drawn in.

This is probably also a good idea, although maybe you could still work a piranha pit in there somewhere idk

Thepeopleversuswork · 28/02/2023 16:36

TrombonesAreNotBones · 28/02/2023 15:23

A tethered pig might be successful in deterring corner-cutters?

LOL. I might try this in South London and see how that plays.
I couldn't get too upset about this, personally.

OhmygodDont · 28/02/2023 16:37

We have this but with hopping over the low wall between us and the neighbour. I’ve just a massive potted plant there.

you need to make clear what is yours vs theirs.

stripedsox · 28/02/2023 16:39

I used to have red bellied piranha in a huge tank in my hall, vicious little bastards they were, hust what you need in your gardwn pit! 😆

stripedsox · 28/02/2023 16:41

Fat fingers strike back 😳

SaulHudsonDavidJones · 28/02/2023 16:47

TheySeeMeRowling · 28/02/2023 15:41

What do they say when you challenge them on it?

Yawn 🥱 Predictable obnoxious comment.

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gobbleguts · 28/02/2023 16:49

I am loving these suggestions Grin

Even if I actually put a sprinkler up and keep off the grass sign and a fence plus piranhas and I still think they would be confused because they just think it's fine to walk across grass no matter who it belongs to Confused

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LostAtTheCrossRoad · 28/02/2023 16:50

This sort of stuff:

Walking across someone's front grass is not acceptable?
Spidermama · 28/02/2023 16:52

YANBU but .... I think you'd avoid stress for yourself by making peace with it. If even delivery drivers use it, it's clearly a user-friendly route that makes sense to them.
Of course you could knock on the window every time or putting up 'get orf my land style signs, but you might not want to be that neighbour.

WeCome1 · 28/02/2023 16:52

I wouldn’t mind people who are coming to my door doing it, but your neighbours cutting through to theirs is not on.

GrumpyPanda · 28/02/2023 16:54

Tbf if you're going to bulldoze it anyway, does it still mayter? I'd worry more about them cutting across my car once it becomes parking...

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 28/02/2023 16:55

YANBU. We have a similar set up. The neighbours aren't an issue but their visitors always walk across our grass and right in front of our living room window! Bloody rude..... I feel like putting a load of bushes in there so they can't do it.

Celestiel · 28/02/2023 16:57

Blackthorn shrubsSmile absolutely no chance of pushing through those without getting spiked...