Am I overreacting?

[Anonymousoneo]

Just this morning found out that my partner has been going online and paying for minutes to talk to women whilst I'm sleeping at night pregnant and with our son. He obviously tried to hide it but it didn't take long for me to figure it out. I'm pretty pissed but is it worth an argument and me confronting him on it?

Yes of course you need to confront him. He can speak to you for free in the day time, why does he need to pay for someone? That's just pathetic.

Worth an argument? Are you serious? I would be walking out completely!

Come on, find your strength! You need to go ballistic on this one. He is spending family money on chatting to other women while his pregnant wife is asleep. You can't get much worse than that.

Of course you're not overreacting, why are you doubting yourself? I would class this as cheating.

Fucking scumbag.

I would leave. So no, you are not overreacting. If anything id say you are underreacting.

He’s cheating. How did you find out?

Grim.

I'm pretty pissed but is it worth an argument and me confronting him on it?

It depends how you feel about it? Are you pretty pissed like he's forgotten to put the milk back in the fridge, or pretty pissed like he's been wanking in front of strange women on the internet while staring at their bodies and paying them for it while you're upstairs, alseep and pregnant kind of pissed?

The only reason you might not confront him again about it would be if you're genuinely not that bothered, that this means nothing, and you're happy for it to continue. Which might be the case, we can't know.

Should you raise with your partner, the father of the child you’re carrying inside you, that he’s paying actual money to directly interact with and masturbate over other women whilst you’re asleep upstairs? What do you reckon?

I’ve never known a man to pay to ‘talk’ to a woman.

I am someone who found that my ex had been wanking over naked photographs of his ex stored on his PC in his home office, very busy wanking working, while I was dealing with newborn.

That was the moment where it was over for me, I did confront him, he came out with some backwards shit that blamed me for the fact that he had his dick in his hand over her, and we wobbled on for a further couple of years but from that moment I lost all respect for him and it was dead.

You might not feel the same, you might be fine with it, but also you'd be reasonable not not feel fine about it at all.

It wasn't really what he did, it was how he dealt with it that was the issue. I think you absolutely can come back from this and far worse, if you're both able to deal with it properly. If you talk to him about it and he tries to make it your fault, and blame it on you, then chances are probably fairly slim.

Well,I expect you are doubting your judgement at the moment and worrying about the consequences of bringing this out into the open.
now you know,you can't not know so facing it and deciding what you want and what you are prepared to put up with Is the first step forward.
there is no excuse for his behaviour but it is down to you to decide for yourself and your wellbeing what you feel you can cope with right now.When pregnant there is sometimes a vulnerable feeling which may over shadow your normal responses.
don't make any snap calls,it's easy for others to tell you to chuck him out,it's not real life for them,this is your life which you thought was happy.
I very much hope you can resolve this and move forward as happily and peacefully as possible.listen to your instincts.🌈