To think he should have stayed home to help clean

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We have some family coming over to visit tomorrow and my partner promised me he would help to clean the apartment before they came. Some backstory, the apartment actually belongs to my family and we are staying here (with no rent) as we just relocated back home and are looking for somewhere to buy. So I want to make sure the place is looking great!

I've already finished most of the cleaning over the weekend but there was still a fair amount left to do. My partner was home with our 2 year old today so I understand it was hard to get anything done (though I usually manage) whilst I was at work.

So I get home to nothing done and then he informs me he is going out for drinks with some friends. So on top of all the cleaning I also need to sort out dinner, receive and unpack the grocery delivery, do bedtime routine for our toddler by myself. On top of that, I have a heap of work to do tonight which he knows about. I always put work last but I have additional tasks today, but this only happens once every year or two!

AIBU to think he should have stayed and helped out? He could have arranged to meet for drink any other time this week!

YANBU but it sounds like he went out and you didn't stop him??

What arrangements had you made before the weekend? I mean had you talked together and agreed that you would both clean together?

That was selfish of him to do not any cleaning then arrange to go out, as he'd promised you he'd help. That being said, how messy was the apartment? If you're normally on top of the weekly clean, I'm sure your family wouldn't want you to spend hours getting the place immaculate just for them when you already have lots on your plate with work and looking after a little one.

Your family or his?

Yanbu, he was selfish

I think cleaning should be a shared chore but you already spent the weekend cleaning and it still wasn’t clean? 😳

Did you tell him to stay?

How on earth is your flat so untidy that 2 days cleaning means you've still got lots left to do?!

That is some selfish loser you have attached yourself to....your family must be thrilled.

You can look after a 2 year old and keep a house tidy, like most adults, but he just can'tbe arsed.

He sees cleaning as your job.

He has zero respect for you.

That's some waster you have there.

I think you need lower standards of housekeeping and higher standards for your relationship.