DP has been very odd about my forthcoming birthday (40th). he kept suggesting things I should do ie go away with friends, have a party with friends etc, nothing that included him. I told him that what I'd really like was just to go out for a meal with him, (no kids) on my birhtday and that's that. Because I'd got a bit upset about him going on about what I ought to do, he's not mentioned it for the past few weeks. I thought he must have arranged for us to go out for something to eat (it's this tuesday BTW). But no, he says yesterday "we could go away next week if you want." So I have to ring my parents to see if they can have the DCs - he hadn't even asked them if they would babysit on my birthday FFS. So I have to organise parents to look after kids, now he's moaning because I don't know where I want to go. AIBU? I think if he wants us to go away then he shoudl be the one arranging it all. I've spent all night tonight looking up hotels etc, as he is away until Monday. I feel like telling him to stuff it. Isn't it a bit like him giving me the money and saying buy yourself a present? Sorry if I'm rambling, probably hitting the wine a bit too much tonight. think I just feel a bit hurt that he hasn't bothered to arrange anything. I arranged a big surprise party for his 40th, with relatives from abroad etc, and was v skint at the time. It's not the money, but just feel that putting in a bit of effort would be a nice gesture.