Yesterday whilst out with DH and MIL, we met a family friend (friend of MILs as well as my own mother, so close friend of both families) we ended up grabbing a coffee together and having a nice morning until the topic of hyperinflation came up.
They mentioned how they've had it with living in the UK, which I truly understand, with all the prices increasing, life in London surely isn't as easy as it was a couple of years ago. MIL mentioned the only thing keeping her here for the next year or so is our DS (1).
For context, she's been saying ever since I met her that she wants to go back to our home country, but she wouldn't do so because of DH. Initially I didn't think anything of it when they lived together since I thought she most likely didn't want to leave him stuck in a two bedroom house having to sort out bills alone. But when we moved in together, the continuous "i hate this country and i'm not well here" but refusing to leave because she doesn't want to leave us has begun to look like some sort of psychological manipulation.
often DH and I feel bad that she gets upset being here, but we don't want to leave. I've started to notice that this seems to be a little more, malicious in a sense than unintentional? Like she wants to force us all to move with her by getting us to feel bad for her.
At this coffee break, they asked if I saw myself moving, to which I said "I won't rule it off because I might change my mind in a couple of years, you never know what tomorrow is going to be like, let alone a couple years time. But currently, I don't see myself leaving the UK" and MIL snapped at me about how I couldn't be that inconsiderate to ignore DH's wishes and if he wanted to move back home. I kept calm and just responded with "It's as much my decision as it his, and if one of us was to have an opposing opinion to the other, that's something we'd decide amongst us. I won't agree with him just to keep him happy if that's going to make me unhappy, just like I wouldn't expect the same from him."
She didn't say anything else to me, but approached DH about "don't you want to go back home?" to which he responded a firm no. She didn't say anything else about the matter but seemed to be a bit off with me the rest of the day.
AIBU to be annoyed and think she needs to mind her own business? I'm considering addressing the situation with her, as DH has before, and this continues to be an issue.