AIBU to want a happy weekend?

[Angelmonkey]

Another weekend, another round of shouting and tears! Seems to happen all the time - today DH tried to help ds11 with homework and it’s ended with ds in tears and calling DH an idiot. This happens every time they try and work on homework together. If it isn’t this then dd7 is screaming at her brother for being in her room, shouting because she has been asked to tidy up or because she’s been told no. I suffer with anxiety anyway and feel constantly on edge, like I can’t do anything right for anyone in the house, any jobs I need to get done get left because I feel I’m trying to sort everyone else out. Just don’t know how to manage anymore

Will they go out for a nice walk?

Does DS need help with his homework? Can't DH just leave him to it?

Long term, you are the parent and there will be no shouting and calling adults idiots without consequences.

Don't help your son with his homework, if your daughter doesn't tidy up her room and screams at you, go in with a black bag and pick up everything that is out of place, put in black bag and remove.

It sounds as if their bad behaviour is at the root of it. They don't get to pollute the atmosphere. Get a grip on that, starting today.

He does need help with his homework - his reading comprehension isn’t great and he needs extra help explaining things, once he understands clearly he is fine. Normally I would help him, but it’s a subject I’m not good at - DH spent time last night looking at it so that he could help. Unfortunately they have similar personalities so they clash! On the whole they are good kids, weekdays are fine and we don’t have problems - weekends just get so stressful

Your husband needs a different approach. My DS and I used to have the same issue with homework and I resolved it but making adjustments to suit him. I find it tiresome because I just did my homework with zero assistance but my son is different and he needs a parent who puts the time in.

Why is your son going into your daughter’s room if she doesn’t want him? Wanting her own space is reasonable and normal.

At 7 you can have a reasonable conversation and agreement about what is required of her room. It doesn’t need to be immaculate.

Pick your battles.