AIBU to think a just 15 year old should not be watching You on Netflix alone?

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I am asking this to see your general thoughts. I'm happy to be put right, but we genuinely need some third party views here.

My partner and I disagree heavily on this issue. He says his daughter has already watched a lot of thrillers, will understand the comedy in You, not take it as real and it's too late to moderate what she watches now anyway. I think it is way too gory and there is too much sex and violence. She watches it alone in her room with no discussion about the content. She talks about sex/sexual activities at the dinner table in front of younger teens with no filter.

Any thoughts gratefully received.

Well that certainly made me spit my tea out

”However, announcing that her friend 'took 4 fingers' at the table is not appropriate in my opinion.”

I think you’ve got two separate problems here. What she watches I’d say is up to her dad. I’ve got one child that has never been phased by any gory or scary things she’s ever seen. And one that couldn’t read Roald Dahl without having nightmares.

The talk at the dinner table, to me it sounds like she’s trying to shock or upset you, especially if you’ve expressed disapproval of her in the past. That’s not something a teen brings up at dinner with their parents. How is your relationship with her generally? It does seem like you’ve decided she’s going to lead your innocent sons astray. She might be playing up to that role to get under your skin.

Not appropriate. Why let kids watch things they might wish they could unsee. Her discussion indicates that she is too immature. Educate her on the types of converstion which are polite and civilised enough to have with other humans of different ages and at the dinner table.

i honestly think you're the one that's quite overprotective if you have teens of a similar age and you don't let them watch things independently, i think once teenagers hit 16+ they can pretty much watch whatever they want, i honestly think the rating system in the uk is ridiculous anyway, i took my daughter to see a film that was 12a and it was absolutely horrific (she was 14) the following weekend she went to see a 15 film and had no problem at all, plus the maturity difference between 15 and 18 is massive, it's like an 11 year old being forced to watch pg films because their parents won't let them touch rated 12 films. Not everything needs a discussion, nor does the discussion have to be with the parents

Why have you reduced the amount of time you spend together?
Do you not like her?

You need to talk to your P, make a deal on what is and is not appropriate at the dinner table and let all DC know this!
Talk to your SD, together, and let her know she has gone beyond what is expected of her in her in what she says about things, at the table and elsewhere!
She'll still talk to her own friends however she likes outside the house, but you need to set boundaries and rules for ALL of the children within the house, and if they overstep the them they must be punished. For example, remove their phones etc for - to begin with - an hour or 2 when they overstep, if they carry on then remove them for the night/day, and so on!!
I'm assuming your SD lives with her mum, can you talk to her about what is being said? It's possible SD feels put out so is pushing to see how far she can go, to see if dad still loves her. Or to see how far she can push things with him, which he is giving into, quite possibly because he doesn't want to lose her love!!!

Why have you resurrected a 10 month old thread?