To want to cry?

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Struggling for money, low income.
I asked my parents for just £20 help towards new uniform for my son, as he’s growing out of it quickly now. I get loads of questions back, asking about second hand places etc. which is fair enough. But I’m so embarrassed asking for money as it is (they’re comfortable, paid mortgage off, dad retired early as could afford to).
I only wanted to get it from a high street chain, nothing fancy.

They have this thing around the fact they struggled when they were young and ‘managed’ so I should too. Which I do, I only asked as uniform is an exception to me.

Did they say no? It’s not clear. Sorry things are so tough. Does his dad contribute?

I'll never understand why parents would see their child struggle when they can help.

I'm really sorry.
Did they give you the money?

Have you asked to borrow money before? Are you generally good with money?

I'm surprised they'd begrudge £20 for any essential purchase, but I assume there's more to this than them wanting to give you a taste of failing to provide.

Do you have an alternative to borrowing from them? A credit card or overdraft you could use to tide you over to pay day?

That's mean. I could never do this to my kids if they asked. So sorry op.

Are they definitely comfortable though, just because their mortgage is paid? Sorry you're struggling.

Set a timer, have a cry for 10 minutes, feel your feelings.

When your time is up Google your local school bank, they are specifically set up for people in your situation, they will help you out, no judgement at all. Failing that local councils sometimes have social funds set up for low income families who need a little something extra and can't afford it, so it's worth looking there too.

Sorry your parents are a bit rubbish, there's no medals for who struggled the most, and you wouldn't think the fact they struggled would mean they don't want you to go through this too 💐

The thing is when yiu ask.people if you can borrow money,they may openly scrutinise your spending. If you are working are you accessing any top up payments you may be entitled to? Are you able to get child maintenance? It getting very grim.at the moment. Have you contacted the school? I.know uniform.is fronted,lsundrted and given out when necessary. Contact your child's head of year.

FFS my daughter who is definitely struggling never has to ask ! Tomorrow I am doing a food shop for her .She is away on a course for her SW degree and has run out of time for her food shop ,she will offer me the money and I will say absolutely not .
Cannot understand why people are so resistant to helping out unless they are on the bread line !

Maybe they are worried that you might have to ask every time you need uniform. Goodness knows it can be expensive! I’m sorry you’re struggling. I use a great FB group for secondhand uniform that helps. I hope you get it sorted.

You could ask the school if they know of any uniform exchanges etc.

Schools are usually good at sourcing uniform - school clothes get so hammered it's not worth buying new.